As someone who is close to living half my life post-transition, I wouldn’t say it ever went away completely for me but I would say it doesn’t bother me anymore. Because like, so what if I’m not ‘really’ trans? I’m clearly and obviously happier now. I think that fear, for me, comes from on some level believing that if I find out I’m not trans that means I’ll have to detransition… a totally cis thing to fear 🤣

[–] Duke_Nukem_1990@feddit.org 5 points 1 day ago

Thank you for the comment! Hearing different experiences is very helpful!

[–] hovercat@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Congratulations! I'm just past a month, and I absolutely get it. It's especially fun on those days when you're feeling extra dysphoric 🥲

Something that's helped me a lot was realizing that it's just a really lazy coping/defense mechanism from the brain. Being trans is kind of (incredibly) scary, and so it's just those echos of fear and doubt saying "Well, maybe if you just weren't trans, things would be way easier!". Then you can calmly tell that to shut the hell up, and continue living your best life :3

[–] Duke_Nukem_1990@feddit.org 7 points 1 day ago

Thank you, I love collecting coping mechanisms.

For me the question: "Am i cis then?" really helps too, cause I can confidently deny that one haha