It's crazy the cognitive dissonance, there was a post back on reddit on r/futanari and someone was like "if you like her check out (trans pornstar)" and there was a heavily upvoted response that said "ew no, that's a man, I like futas" like brother what, just accept that you like femme dick and stop telling yourself that it's weird!

[–] SkyeStarfall@lemmy.blahaj.zone 21 points 4 days ago (1 children)

It sounds so exhausting to live like that ngl

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 10 points 4 days ago (1 children)

it is, i was like that (except not a dick about it) for a long time until i managed to become comfortable with the idea of being ostensibly bi. And i don't even live in a place where most people give a shit, i'd just grown up thinking i'm straight therefore i'm straight, duhhhhh

[–] desktop_user@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Streight defaultism and cis normalism are both problems that if eliminated would prevent so many problems.

[–] CheesyFox@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 2 days ago

also the effing gender stereotypes

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 5 points 4 days ago (1 children)

honestly i'm a proponent of just not talking about gender and sexuality anymore, let the concepts be a part of a bygone era.

People are people and people are varying amounts of attracted to different people, there's little point in making it any more precise than that unless you're looking for porn or a date. Why have 7 billion neopronouns when we can just stop giving a fuck what random people find attractive?

[–] Kellenved@sh.itjust.works 1 points 4 days ago

Preach! Don’t understand why it’s so hard to live and let live when it comes to gender and sexuality.

[–] prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

It's sad to see people so insecure about who they are that they have to lie to themselves. Shit must be a nightmare to live with day in and day out.