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Lemmy reacts to a non-sexualized silly outfit pic in a totally normal way…

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[–] 1985MustangCobra@lemmy.ca 1 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

i fail to understand how i am very respectable when i try to find a girlfriend yet this misogyny is widely celebrated by some men and some women find it acceptable. is somthing wrong with me?

[–] jerakor@startrek.website 17 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

Women are not a monolith and not all admiration of physical attributes is misogyny.

If you see it as work or effort to not post online about random peoples physical attributes when you see a picture of them, then yea you should look at yourself a bit. It shouldn't feel like you deserve a reward for not being like that.

[–] 1985MustangCobra@lemmy.ca 1 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I don't feel like i diverse a reward, and if the comments are reserved to a place where it's consensual, i don't see an issue. but imagine your picture was being shared online and people who have no idea are, make comments like this about you? wouldn't you feel a bit upset about that?

[–] jerakor@startrek.website 8 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Yes, that is absolutely unacceptable. But that has nothing to do with your personal situation and I would say it is unhealthy to relate the two.

[–] 1985MustangCobra@lemmy.ca 1 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

maybe i just have a different view on things.

[–] jerakor@startrek.website 4 points 2 weeks ago

You have a common and problematic view of things. You asked if you are doing something wrong, it looks like you probably are. I'd advise you question your worldview a bit and talk honestly with folks you feel you can respect on how they got from where you are to where they are.