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Love the implication that sex ed would've been any better in the US. Hell it would be worse if it was one of those abstinence only courses I had to go through.
I didn't have sex ed. The teacher had the kids vote on what they wanted. Sex ed or kickball. They all had shocked Pikachu faces when 4 students (ranging from 13-15years old) ended up pregnant within a year.
We literally had no sex ed other than pointing at a model. Nothing about how to do it or do it safely. Nothing about how to recognize if you're being forced to and don't realize it. Just pure memorization of the inner parts that people forgot about instantly. We had to watch a baby be born in a video but that was literally it.
This was last year. By the best bio teacher in the school.
I refuse to believe that this is real.
Might be creative writing.
Edit: just realized this is an audience submitted article, but I don’t retract my point
This is a column where letters from readers are responded to by the author (and sometimes guest help). Ms. Stoya is the column’s author, and she writes responses to the letters that get sent in.
Might still be creative writing, but not by Ms. Stoya.
Yeah, I realized my mistake a minute after commenting and edited to point out the misunderstanding. These user submitted articles have always seemed fake to me. Particularly those from John Baron
Huh. It even looks like you realized it before I commented, but my client didn’t show your edit!
Between the time required for different instances to push and pull the update, and the minute required to write it, there was definitely room for a misunderstanding to brew. Browser lemmy also only publishes changes to the page when you upvote/downvote something. (But voting can also clear any comments you’re writing on that page, so be careful)
Wait is that the Stoya? I had no idea she was writing for Slate now!
I think she knows how sex works though.
There’s more to the story, I saw the full article somewhere else. Dude can’t finish without a condom now because of nerves. It seems pretty believable.
Read the article and I wish them well, if it isn’t a cheeky bit of chicanery. Poking holes in the condom would also work, in addition to the soul searching and ED medication they suggested
I've heard stories if having sex using a woman's urethra and not understanding things. Ive also heard stories about Mormons who don't know how sex works at all and not understanding how they weren't having children even after they were hokding hands and stuff.
Basically, this could be fake but I've heard much worse from more reliable sources.
Urethral penetration is a fetish and requires stretching. You can't just push a penis inside of one. Not even by accident.
You apparently can if this is accurate. Yeah, it's painful obviously.
Woah holy shit. Every day on the internet you learn something new. The links in that reddit thread are dead now but it's easy to find on the Hub.
Anal on the other hand...
I was literally going to mention the urethra story. I am now very concerned that you mentioned "stories", plural.
I've heard worse. This is definitely possible.
This is at least half as stupid as things that are going on in the US right now so I can easily believe it.
it used to be a priests job to tell a couple getting married about this.
we take education for granted, especially when there's misinformation around
Because getting sex ed from a man who isn't supposed to know anything at all about a woman's sexual preferences and responses is totally the way to ensure a long and happy and productive marriage.
oh i am by no means defending the practice at all
Not the first time I've heard someone talk like sex ed is supposed to include a section on technique. Like your high school gym teacher is going to start talking about "first start with gentle caresses around the area to get her in the mood." No, school sex ed is meant to be about the realities of human reproduction, how pregnancy works, how STDs work and how to control these things.
Seems it's supposed to be anyone's job except a woman's to teach a man what she likes.
I mean in canada we definitely touched on foreplay and erogenous zones. Not like specific in depth instructions, but talk about how a woman should be 'warmed up' and the physical reaction when she starts getting wet and horny. That seems like a pretty basic thing to start with, whether youre learning about or having sex. From what ive heard about the states though im not surprised it isnt.
Yeah the United States is such a prudish country you'd never get away with gym teachers explaining how to have good sex on the clock. We can barely manage banana condoming.
True, but the priest would have told them not to use a condom, you'll have to admit that.
Only because it was also a priest's job to tell single people that thinking about sex before marriage was going to condemn them to an eternity in hell.
They neglected to tell them that the "horrible diseases" are only a danger if you sleep around with different people.
You or your partner. Sadly it's way too common to catch it even when having one partner and being faithful.
Absolutely not. You and your partner could be completely faithful and still catch something. Your partner could have gotten something from their ex and not noticed before passing it on to you. Not all STDs are obvious.
In a long term relationship? You'd think something would pop up within the first year or two.
"Sleeping around" as in having more than one sexual partner. This was a long term relationship.
Or alternate holes like you are playing the pan flute
They'll grow back right?
I don’t think any advice was warranted.
Also I would love to know at what point the doctor figured out the issue.
Diagnostics
Holy shit