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[–] the_crotch@sh.itjust.works 38 points 3 hours ago (3 children)

Judging by what I see on dating sites, fishing is near the bottom of the list. So many women's profiles say something like "I don't want to see a picture of you holding a fish"

[–] Belgdore@lemm.ee 13 points 1 hour ago (4 children)

It’s that men don’t take a lot of pictures of themselves. Then they refuse to take any specifically for their dating profiles. Taking pictures specifically for a dating profile would show that they actually care about finding a person they would do other things specifically for.

[–] CancerMancer@sh.itjust.works 4 points 40 minutes ago (1 children)

Taking pictures specifically for a dating profile would show that they actually care about finding a person they would do other things specifically for.

This is a dead giveaway that you've never asked men why they don't take and share pictures of themselves. Most men in the anglosphere consider it vain and self-destructive to obsess over their looks. You can also see it in the way they buy clothes ("I'll take 5 pairs of the same pants, thanks"), the way they cut their hair ("just take an inch off and even it out"), and the way they present themselves, often with as few accessories and adornments as possible. Those they do have are utilitarian or deeply personal.

[–] isolatedscotch@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 22 minutes ago

I mean yea, there's no point in faking all that (having fancy hair, fancy pants) to have a relationship that's based on lies and that will crumble the instant you show your true self

[–] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 1 points 5 minutes ago

I just don't want pictures of myself on the internet. I value my privacy. Huge part of the reason I never had a dating profile.

[–] Fosheze@lemmy.world 1 points 12 minutes ago

It’s that men don’t take a lot of pictures of themselves.

I can't speak for all men but I have a complete inability to look even remotely normal if I know a picture is being taken of me. I try to take profile pics and they all wind up awful and that's not just my view. I showed my friend just to make sure it wasn't just poor self image talking and they reacted like I was showing off a broken bone. I think the only way I'm going to get workable dating profile pics is if I have a friend take pictures of me without me noticing like I'm some sort of cryptid and they'retrying to capture proof.

[–] Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world 1 points 47 minutes ago

Unfortunately, the fact that they don’t take many pictures of themselves can be really obvious. I try not to turn a guy down because of a bad profile picture, because I know there’s a technique to it and that requires practice.

At the same time, we’re in a digital era - you can take 100 pictures and only upload your favorite one. There’s no reason for an average guy’s profile picture to resemble a mugshot.

[–] ObsidianNebula@sh.itjust.works 22 points 2 hours ago (2 children)

I wonder if it is fishing itself that they don't like, or if it is the prevalence of fishing photos on dating sites. I know that a lot of guys post fishing photos on their profiles (probably because most men don't take many photos of themselves but will take photos with a nice catch), so maybe it just seems unoriginal or low effort. I'm honestly not sure, but my only point is that it may not be the hobby itself.

[–] pool_spray_098@lemmy.world 13 points 2 hours ago

Agreed, I really don't think it's the fishing itself.

Half the problem on any dating site is the classic: 1. Be attractive 2. Don't be unattractive.

If the dude is holding a fish but looks like Chris Evans, she will probably still be interested.

On top of that, dudes holding the fish will overwhelmingly tend to look like the wrap around sunglasses wearing, goatee having, overweight, Trump voting cliche. Women probably build an association to not being compatible with dudes who love fishing after enough times of seeing that and connecting these dots.

[–] the_crotch@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 hour ago

I assumed it was a combination of "it's really common" and "fish are gross" but I don't look at men's profiles and don't fish so I may be way off

[–] Wogi@lemmy.world 10 points 2 hours ago

It's like 95% of male profiles. Bad selfies and the only picture of them taken by someone else is them holding a fish.