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Lemmy is a worse platform for women than Reddit was EDIT this link is an OLD POST that contains my thesis on the state of lemmy and is not the context of the much more recent comment in the screenshot. sorry for any confusion caused by this juxtaposition, my main goal with having this linked is to expose how nothing has improved

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[โ€“] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.world 12 points 4 days ago (1 children)

It's fucking awful. I feel guilty for not pushing back harder when the "not all men" crowd shows up, especially in the community I mod. I've been giving them too much benefit of the doubt in an attempt to not ruin the vibes. I won't make that mistake again.

Realistically there's only so much you can do, and sometimes it seems like for every one you push back against 3 more turn up. And the worst part is that we do our best to avoid them and their spaces, and stay in our own, but they come looking and just, can't fucking not. And they come from all walks of life and political leanings. (sure, some more than others, but still all). It feels like a losing battle most of the time.

At this point I usually just block and move on, I can't imagine having to moderate this mess.