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I have stage 2 cancer. I don't want to end up like my uncle, wasting his final months enduring treatment. I just don't know how to tell my family.

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[–] the_post_of_tom_joad@sh.itjust.works 24 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago)

My experience says it probably doesn't matter however you choose to tell them but do tell them, as soon as you can. They'll want input on your decisions you know. They'll probably want you to fight this. They'll probably ask a lot of you. They'll demand you "waste away enduring treatment" But do tell them anyway, for them.

That's what this is about, yeah? Just bite the bullet and do it, today. Get it out there. Then listen to them when they speak. Maybe you'll change your mind. Maybe you'll decide to fight. Maybe you will not. But don't you keep it a secret, that's against the rules. You made a deal with your family, don't break it because you're afraid of losing a fight you could win.

I dunno if it's always the case but it can have long lasting effects on them if you don't give them their chance to say goodbye. My wife (40) still has trouble with the shock and loss from 8 years old when her gramma kept her cancer from her family until the very end.

So ill shut up now, feel weird already talking so confidently bout something so personal to someone....So log off, buck up, and tell them. You know they're gonna bug the shit out of you, but who knows, maybe they'll convince you. Maybe during this trouble you all will find a deeper love together than you knew you could feel.

Obviously some Internet asswipe like me can't be trusted with something so important. Don't be afraid of their love, go tell em, right now. <3