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My question is more about informing my family, Do you mind me asking how your dad broke the news to you?
Unfortunately I was in the room. I took him to the ER to get checked for pneumonia due to a persistent cough and fever. After the CT a very kind hospitalist broke the news. There were other extended family members that needed to be informed. When I told them, I followed pretty close to what the Dr did and said. I'm not sure if that's helpful for your situation. To use your conversation as a model.
For me it worked best to be as direct and clear as straight forward as possible bc you want them to hear and understand what you're saying. The emotions will come in later. So if you can do it, I'd say "I have something serious to tell you, I was diagnosed with cancer" then fill in the details. People will get upset and need some time to have emotions.
I would encourage you to learn more before sharing; there may be treatment options, you might have a cancer that is very treatable, unknown or untreatable. Likelihoods and timelines are the most important thing that your family will want to know; sharing "stage 2 cancer type x and this is a general treatment plan and timeline" is a very different conversation from "I have cancer, don't know what type, the timeline or likelihoods of outcomes".
It may be different for you and your family but that can really help your family receive, process the news and support you how you need.