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[–] Diva@lemmy.ml -4 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

brb going to ask my cishet male friend to tell me about that guy he just married

[–] basmati@lemmus.org 0 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

If someone addresses a diverse group as 'you guys' absolutely no real human being is confused or offended. If you are offended, step outside, get some sun, talk to a real human using your voice.

[–] Diva@lemmy.ml -4 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

If someone asks a cishet guy how many guys they've been with do you think they're going to say 'oh I'm straight' and possibly get offended, or just start listing all the girls they've dated?

Like I work 6 days a week, I'm outside plenty. I get misgendered enough to know what's annoying to me.

[–] basmati@lemmus.org -2 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

If someone asks a cishet guy how many people they've been with, the cishet is going to correct to women they've been with, same with guys or any other gender neutral term that leaves the question ambiguous.

As far as your personal biases, I don't care. At all, even a little. If you feel gender neutral terms misgender you, that's on you. You actually are incompatible with the language you're using and need to change.

[–] Diva@lemmy.ml -3 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

Me:

If someone asks a cishet guy how many guys they've been with

You:

If someone asks a cishet guy how many people they’ve been with

If you were calling me a person rather than a "guy" I would have no issue this whole time, notice how you just changed my wording to make your argument work?

I think I'll refrain from taking English language advice, or life advice from you

[–] basmati@lemmus.org -2 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I am calling you a person by calling you a guy, and I switched the word on purpose with another gender neutral term to emphasize the point, which you might have realized if you didn't have a complex about it.

[–] Diva@lemmy.ml -3 points 3 weeks ago

The point of what I was saying was that it's not as explicitly gender-neutral as something like "person". Thus the example of asking a cishet guy how that guy he married is doing, it just doesn't scan. It's not a huge distinction in most situations and is generally appropriate, but its also pretty clearly a passive aggressive dig when it's used in situations where it's the singular and the subject has made their gender clear.

You're welcome to dispute that it's not used as passive aggressive dig, but I'm just citing lived experience.