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Are antisocial habits keeping you down? (leminal.space)

submitted 2 months ago by spiderwort@leminal.space to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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People are painful to me. I find their presence painful. I've been this way since infancy. I created a suite of methods for keeping them away (methods like "passive-aggressive hostility"). These methods became deep habits. Later in life I hungered for company and couldn't figure out why I was so bad at it. I just recently realized what's up (thanks meditation). Do any of you relate?

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[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 15 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Get into therapy. The best time to start was years ago. The next best time to start is now.

I had all kinds of anti-social coping mechanisms. Life was challenging in ways that made me an asshole. I've been able to unravel it about 97% and have made huge strides in other areas. I didn't think I'd ever be where I am today. Do yourself a favor and find someone you trust (it might not be the first therapist you consult) and work on yourself.

[–] andrewta@lemmy.world 3 points 2 months ago

Best advice from some guy you'll ever get