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I'm going to a dance party for the first time. I'm scared of becoming a fly on the wall. What can/should I do if this happens? Edit: It was a ton of fun. Thank you all for submitting your thoughts (lemm.ee)

submitted 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) by throwawaysalami@lemm.ee to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Are there some practical things you can do at that point? Or is that the cue you should just leave?

Some context: It's a Latin dance party. Meaning you dance with a partner. I do not have a very much experience with it (about 16 lessons, with half of them being repeats). I go there with some people I know, but am not all too well acquainted with.

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[–] LazaroFilm@lemmy.world 26 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (2 children)

Remember this: no one cares if you’re not a good dancer. What matters is that you are having fun. It’s also okay to be a fly on the wall, it’s okay to move your feet slightly while hugging the wall. It’s okay to close your eyes and pretend you’re dancing in your bedroom in front of your mirror, it’s okay to walk away and take a break if it becomes too much. Don’t force it, just remember to ask yourself if you’re enjoying what you’re doing. A party is about having fun, not winning a contest of popularity or a dance-off (you can totally have a dance off if you want to though). Enjoy!

[–] nokturne213@sopuli.xyz 6 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Ask people if they would like to touch your monkey.

Edit oops meant that as a reply to the op. Oh well, now it is the time on sprockets when we dance.

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 2 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Some context: It's a Latin dance party. Meaning you dance with a partner. I do not have a very much experience with it (about 16 lessons, with half of them being repeats). I go there with some people I know, but am not all too well acquainted with

[–] LazaroFilm@lemmy.world 1 points 5 months ago

My points are still valid. Because some people decide to dance with a partner and follow dance moves doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to enjoy your time and dance by yourself, just don’t take the center stage maybe. If anyone judges you for trying to trance then they’re the bad dancers. Vance should be inclusive, especially at a party. Have fun, and don’t stress it.