Don't just learn to cook. Find at least one dish that you want to get down pat and perfect that dish. Having that one dish you do perfectly is great for date nights.

[–] spittingimage@lemmy.world 1 points 8 months ago

I'm not saying good pasta is the way to a woman's heart, but it's true that I've never seen a woman in a bad mood with good pasta in her stomach.

[–] Nosavingthrow@lemmy.world 6 points 8 months ago

If you live in the United States, don't talk to cops. You don't know this person. You don't know that the cop isn't a criminal and is now looking for a patsy. Don't discuss your day, don't discuss your travel plans, don't say where you've been. If a cop asks to search anything, don't say yes, don't say no, don't say sure, no thanks. The only thing you say is 'I do not consent to a search', regardless of how it is asked. If a cop asks you anything, say 'I invoke the fifth and I want to speak to a lawyer'. Burghuis v thompkins effect hobbled you miranda rights. And you must verbalize your right to remain silent. You must also verbally request a lawyer in basically eight grade english. No slang. If you say 'I want a lawyer, dawg' state v demesme makes it reasonable for cops to believe you would like a lawyer who is a dog.

[–] Oneeightnine@feddit.uk 4 points 8 months ago

This.

Me and my partner have spent the last hour looking through recipe books because I need to figure out how to good a more... diabetes friendly selection of foods.

I can cook a roast dinner no problem, but cooking beans and pulses? No idea.

[–] mozz@mbin.grits.dev 4 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

When a cop ask you questions, only answer what you are required to answer.

Yep. You have to tell them your name and ID yourself, you have to get out of the car if they tell you to, but you don't have to say shit about what did or didn't happen. Even if you haven't been read your rights there are still some circumstances where the bodycam can be played and used against you in court. It only takes 2 seconds for one random thing to come out of your mouth that you can't take back that can perfectly make the case against you, and put you away.

The cops' job is to catch bad people and put them away. That is fine, you don't gotta be hostile or deliberately make everyone's day unpleasant, but if you're in the crosshairs as a potential bad person don't say a goddamned word until you talk to a lawyer. Anything helpful for your side about you talking to them will still be helpful after you talk to a lawyer.

For as much as I don't agree with him stealing, this guy actually shows a great example of how it works (all sides - the manipulation of dude-just-be-honest and his correct response to it; obeying all the lawful orders but telling them to GFY whenever they ask him questions.)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Q59Fd5ClUc&t=980s

"I'm not admit to a god damned thing. Prove it."

(Honestly I wouldn't even say that much, because they can maybe play that in court and say see he knew he was guilty. Just, I don't want to talk to you about it until I talk to a lawyer first.)