Sometimes I feel anxious talking to people and telling them about my interests in life. Thinking deep down inside my head that most people will be annoyed by what I had to say and just shun me. Especially when it's a jump from one topic to another that has nothing to do with the previous. I was always told to give to a conversation before I take, however, that's social anxiety always kicks in. Does anybody else have similar experiences?

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[–] RickRussell_CA@kbin.social 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That's why you start with so-called "small talk". It's rare that anybody really cares to talk about the weather, or notable local news, or the performance of the regional sports teams. But these subjects are safe. They give your conversation partners an opportunity to give an opinion and hint at their real interests (their families, their hobbies, etc) without broaching subjects that others might find exceptionally unpleasant or offensive.

So, don't "jump from one topic to another that has nothing to do with the previous". Give your conversation partners opportunities to change the subject, in a way that feels natural.

[–] ArtVandelay@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Imagine being a meteorologist, and your passion is the weather.

[–] RickRussell_CA@kbin.social 5 points 1 year ago

I almost became a meteorologist! 2 years of grad school, but decided to quit before I became the bitterest person on Earth.