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Visiting the US soon - do I really have to tip? (feddit.de)

submitted 1 year ago by kilgore@feddit.de to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Hey Folks!

I've been living abroad for over half my life in a country where tipping is not the norm. At most you would round up. 19€ bill? Here's a 20, keep this change.

Going to the US soon to visit family and the whole idea of tipping makes me nervous. It seems there's a lot of discussion about getting rid of tipping, but I don't know how much has changed in this regard.

The system seems ridiculously unfair, and that extra expense in a country where everything is already so expensive really makes a difference.

So will AITA if I don't tip? Is it really my personal responsibility to make sure my server is paid enough?

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[–] Fylkir@lemmy.sdf.org 16 points 1 year ago (2 children)

American here. Here's the three common contexts for tipping. Everything else is something someone's trying to make a thing rather than actually a thing:

Restaurants: If someone is bringing food from the Kitchen to your table
Delivery: If someone's delivering food. Or they're personally delivering groceries.
Transportation: If someone's driving you personally. Like a Taxi.

Some say you should tip bathroom attendants. I've never even seen a bathroom attendant, but that seems like such a bizarre job to tip for, even by American standards.

[–] bpm@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 year ago

Bartenders are a case that you've missed. A standard cash rate is $1 per drink. Bartenders have a lot of leeway when it comes to how quickly you're served, and how strong your drinks will be, so tipping well may be in your interest.

[–] ira@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 year ago

And barbers/hairstylists. Unlikely to come up during a short visit though.