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[–] shalafi@lemmy.world 20 points 11 months ago (3 children)

Ex-friend was much like that. Really tall dude, liked tiny, subservient women. One time him and his wife were over.

"I don't allow her to wear makeup or cut her hair."

Right in front of us all. For real. (She eventually escaped!)

And yes, I hung out with such a man. Typical, young right-winger, full of rage that the world he had seen and been promised, his grandad's world, his dad's world, was taken from him by "the others".

I was slowly turning him around. And it was working! Just pussed out, gave up on him. Still feel bad about it. I might have saved one.

[–] sukhmel@programming.dev 11 points 11 months ago

I was slowly turning him around. And it was working! Pussed out, gave up on him. Still feel bad about it. I might have saved him but for my lack of patience and moral courage.

Don't blame yourself, it really takes a lot of energy and it's not like you're obligated to do that anyway. Besides, it could've never work 100% thus putting you in a kind of co-dependent relationship. Good for you to abandon toxic environment, I think.

[–] echodot@feddit.uk 9 points 11 months ago

Typical, young right-winger, full of rage that the world he had seen and been promised, his grandad's world, his dad's world, was taken from him by "the others".

Oh is that what their problem is I've always wondered what their issue was.

The thing is though both my grandfather and my father worked in coal mines. My grandfather in particular had all sorts of breathing problems and back problems because of this. I never wanted to live in their world. Those idiots have a rose tinted version of a world that never was, they have no idea what it is that they're pining after.

[–] feedum_sneedson@lemmy.world 3 points 11 months ago (2 children)

I'm tall and muscular and like tiny women, but I also let them bully and emotionally abuse me. I don't know what that says about me.

[–] Honytawk@lemmy.zip 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

That you notice the flags.

Too bad red is your favourite colour.

[–] feedum_sneedson@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago

🤷‍♂️

It literally is.

[–] Drivebyhaiku@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

That you probably need a hug?

[–] feedum_sneedson@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Can't see what you're replying to, you're probably right, but I am going to need that in haiku form - and don't forget the reference to the seasons.

[–] Drivebyhaiku@lemmy.world 1 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

The chill of winter

Lurks in the words of women

Cutting through muscle