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I, personally, would prefer slower linear and more organic growth. I want people to be here because the want to come, not because they want to run away from somewhere else.
But I do acknowledge that there was not much discussion going on and was not enough content for my procrastinating habits, nor I could keep myself informed in current events.
Thou I have had lemmy.ml account for three years now I never heard of beehaw before this reddit wave started, so that might be on me.
While I am positive overall, I do not like that some bad habits from reddit are resurfacing here, mostly not being able to have different opinion without someone insulting you.
I hope there will be enough instances where discussion and difference in opinion will be nurtured and welcome.
I have a pet peeve around people saying "this." When they agree with someone. Idk why... I was hoping I wouldn't see that here but unfortunately it's cropping up.
My concern is that and a bunch of other reddit-isms flood the site. I don't mind redditors coming here but I hope the site can still have its own identity.
There are a few others:
I mean this reddit post complaining about annoying phrases came out 9 years ago. 9 YEARS. And since then I continue to see so many of those and others.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/1i5cd2/_/
I don't want to gatekeep either. But certain phrases repeated over and over is just so irritating.
That kind of stuff irks me a bit as well, but I think it's human nature. It's a form of call-and-response where people can show that they're apart of the community. Friendships are built on shared experiences, and those kinds of memes are instant shared experiences that are being used to build camaraderie. I think the reason it is annoying to users like us is because it feels watered down, like a free ticket in, instead of becoming a part of the community organically. I get both sides, so I don't actively try to stop people from doing it, I just ignore it.
This.
Just couldn't help yourself, eh? Lol
I've seen the low-effort meme comments as well; I hated them on Reddit, and I hate them here. This topic had come up on Reddit many times over the years, and there's not really a way to combat it, from what I could tell. People with nothing to say still want to participate (e.g. earn fake internet points), and that seems to be a favored way do it.
Entomology subs like /r/whatsthisbug had a hard rule against comments like "kill it with fire", "nope", and "nuke it from orbit". It was explained in the sidebar, mods would actively remove the comments, and people would downvote them, but it barely made a dent. Scroll to the bottom of a post and you'd see the same stupid "joke" repeated over and over, verbatim.
These people don't even look at the other comments, they just drop their canned catchphrase and leave. This is why I like that we have to scroll to the bottom to comment here; at least the numpties have to put in slightly more effort, and hopefully they notice the comment has already been made 30 times. Ah, who am I kidding? Seeing the same comment probably reinforces their desire to post it.
The entire issue is lame as frig, wish there was a way to stop it. I know I'd be a bad moderator, because I'd just ban them.
I guess that is well worth keeping in mind , coming from the cesspool that is reddit everything seems so polite here by comparison.
I have noticed this as well. I've made a few excursions back to reddit since it keeps loading old comments I haven't yet mass-deleted to my profile page, and on the two trips where I didn't immediately close the browser afterwards, both times I clicked on a thread and immediately saw some inflammatory bait, got a little annoyed, and then remembered "wait, I don't browse this shithole anymore" and came on back.
I'm not perfect, not even close, but I'm definitely trying to check how I say things while I'm here because I want it to stay this was for as long as possible.
This is humans were talking about. Humans on the internet. This is inevitable and I wouldn't specifically attribute this to former reddit users. You have this on Twitter, you have this on Instagram. The "my opinion is the only correct opinion" sentiment is prevalent everywhere today. Sadly.
Also: this is community-specific.
Many subreddits were fantastic about not tolerating insults or disrespect.
I expect the same here - some Fediverse communities will be a free-for-all with insults, some will be a welcoming place for people to disagree without getting insulted.
It's not anyone's goal to impose one set of rules of decorum for the entire Fediverse.
I did run away from Reddit but I also want to be here because I have been a firm believer in the Fediverse. It is bringing net neutrality back. I'm here to stay!