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Messed up things a doctor did to you or someone you know? / Bad experiences with doctors (lemmy.zip)
submitted 10 months ago by Lamb@lemmy.zip to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
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Today I spoke to a coworker who had bad experiences with doctors and was seeking recommendations for a new one, then other coworkers chimed in, and so I decided to ask you guys as well. Well, not for a doctor recommendation, but about your bad experienced with doctors?

I'm gonna spoiler mine, because it makes me very uncomfortable, so perhaps it may make someone else very uncomfortable.

uncomfortableI had a doctor who had no business in it make me show my intimate parts (I'm intersex) and she touched them. She was curious, I guess...? She's a psychiatrist, so, again, literally 0 business doing so. I already have trauma from regular people who treat me like a circus display, I really had no need for someone with systemic power over me using it like that...

No, I didn't report this. I was a teenager and barely functioning at the time. :/

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[โ€“] stolid_agnostic@lemmy.ml 2 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

Doctors will absolutely gaslight your symptoms with anything that affects your brain. They don't care that you can't sleep or eat or have sex or experience emotions, it's all about throwing pills at the problem until one seems to work a little bit and doesn't make your life shit. I've never met a psychiatrist capable of basic human empathy.

[โ€“] Fosheze@lemmy.world 3 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

There are a lot of really shitty doctors out there that do shit like that but there are still decent ones too. Luckily the one in my initial post wasn't my primary care doc. I couldn't get in to see my normal doc at the time so I just got Dr. Dumbass instead.

My primary care doc is actually great with dealing with my depression despite it not being his area of expertise. I'd love to get in to see a psych and therapist but they're all so booked up my doctor can't even get me on a waiting list so he just does the best he can on his own. He literally called up that department while I was in the office with him and they basically gave him a flat no and then hung up on him. Durring one of my initial appointments he just straight up told me that mental health isn't an area he knows much about but as time went on it became clear that he was putting in a ton of effort to actually educate himself. Now whenever I'm having an issue related to my depression or medications sideeffects he can quickly come up with multiple potential solutions discuss the pros and cons of each one with me and ask which one I want to try. Needless to say I will be keeping this doctor even if it means I need to lock him in my basement.