I didn't know that would be offensive. I really didn't. I thought my comment was inclusive to everyone. Can anyone tell me how to be more tactful with my words in the future?

I have very good friends who identify as their true selves in so many ways and I love them all dearly. It would crush me if I don't learn something from this. To me, a is part of the category I was attempting to include.

[–] Zagorath@aussie.zone 8 points 1 year ago (2 children)

To me, a is part of the category I was attempting to include

I could be wrong (and I hope @riwo@lemmy.blahaj.zone will correct me if I am), but I don't think "a" is a category. I think they were simulating a stutter. The "a- and ppl" is (I think) meant to be pausing and restarting the word "and" halfway through.

[–] bmsok@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I thought it was short for asexual :-/ still learning new things

[–] AceCephalon@pawb.social 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

As an Asexual, can confirm, they're just making a joke with a text based stutter, not referring to Asexual or Agender, such as in "LGBTQIA+" that generally refers to multiple things under the "A".

In the latter case, it's left open ended for inclusivity, rather than arbitrarily excluding other things by specifying.

As for how the original comment could possibly be more inclusive, it's harder to say exactly, but I can think of something like "Ladies, Gentlemen, and everyone else", but I'm not exactly great at fancy words... or words in general... but I try my best.

[–] LtLiana@startrek.website 2 points 1 year ago

All good, you did nothing wrong haha. I don't think the other person was even genuinely criticizing your post, I think it was meant to be a lighthearted joke.

Besides, asexuality would be a lack of sexual attraction - I guess "agender" would be the only "a-something" that's relevant to a male/female dichotomy.

[–] Zagorath@aussie.zone 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Asexual usually gets shortened to "ace" I believe.

[–] bmsok@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

Ace is the term I'm familiar with, too. I just didn't want to be left in the dark if there was an even more abbreviated version of the abbreviation.

[–] riwo@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

sjdhfjd yes this. i was trying to be cute >\\\<;

[–] Zagorath@aussie.zone 1 points 1 year ago

Yeah being cute was how I interpreted it. Thanks for the clarification.

[–] riwo@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

hii, dont worry. it happens. i didn't mean to come accross judgemental. i just want to create a little awareness.

i wrote a long ass comment as a kind of guide on how to include everyone. if u want to check that out: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/4367955