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[–] doom_and_gloom@lemmy.ml 2 points 11 months ago

You might practice speaking less analytically. I've done a million MB tests but I still can't keep the categories straight. Looking it up, you could describe that as:

  • A good listener
  • Values people feeling safe and understood
  • Shy around strangers but treasure close friendships

Don't worry about what travel you do and don't do, it's not a competition. What makes you want to travel? To see new people, new places, different ways of living, to learn about indigenous cultures, to hike the best mountains, etc.

I think it is one of the things that make me the most happy, when I’m in beauty place alone just with my thoughts.

You love finding the peace and tranquility of mind you get when appreciating nature's beauty. That's great. Some people can't settle their minds for a moment, while some people value partners who can exist in and appreciate the present moment.

I’m also a bit of tech geek.

Great, and no need to nerd out. "I'm a bit of nerd." Maybe "I like to stay on top of technology trends."

I’m learning languages, recently started learning German.

You might be very surprised at how many people find language-learning attractive. What's your motivation - is it something that might be appropriate for your profile? "I read X and fell in love with Y," for example.

My aspirations are more of a quiet but also well-paid job, I do not plan a great career.

"Down-to-earth," "I value stability and friendships over accumulating material possessions," etc.

I also plan to start learning to draw but so far it is in the planning zone.

So you probably like art, are intrigued by artists and their craft, etc.

Hopefully that's some good starter material for you. It can also be helpful, although not at all required, to specify what kind of engagements you want to have - flings, dates around town, looking for a partner, etc. If you aren't really sure then there is no need to specify.