thank you for putting in the effort to even think about the ace homies lol. it was actually really refreshing to see it even brought up in this thread since it isn't talked about a lot!

from what i've read it can vary a lot from person to person, and it is a spectrum. in my experience i can compare it to aphantasia, where i haven't experienced this thing that many people consider central to their lives and those around them but it really hasn't affected me in a negative way that i can perceive. as i understand it, asexuality is purely the lack of sexual attraction, and theres plenty more words to further specify where people fall on the spectrum if you want to look it up.

i think a lot of the "iffy" ace identification/definition you can read about online simply comes from it being so hard to prove the absence of a thing, when the opposite can be so easy.