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People like to be acknowledged. So if you are chatting to someone and they mention there is something coming up (a date, a test, an interview for a job, etc) then next time you see them ask them how it went.
If they are into films or TV shows or books you could ask them what they are liking at the moment and if they'd recommend it. If it's of interest to you, check it out and let them know what they thought.
If someone needs help and you can spare the time then help them. They may say "I owe you one" but don't keep a track because everyone's time and availability is different and you could get bitter if you thought you were putting in way more than them. Just keep an eye out for people who might be taking advantage of your good nature.
Say "yes" more often - if someone invites you to a social occasion and you aren't sure, say "yes". Try not to make it a blanket "yes" or people might take advantage ot it could start getting out of hand (I had to stop doing it for that reason).
Listen, ask questions, don't interrupt and go "that reminds me of the time I..." then launch into a 5 minute story that ends "but I suppose you had to be there to appreciate it."