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[–] incogtino@lemmy.zip 110 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Your employer does not care about you. You are not important or irreplaceable

Take your time and energy and put it into your life, not their business

I have had coworkers die (not work related) and by the time you hear about it (like the next day) they have already worked out who will get the work done so the machine doesn't have to stop

[–] ButtBidet@hexbear.net 37 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I had a workmate develop a chronic illness after an infection of COVID, and he had to leave under hardship. People that hung out with him as best mates for years stopped talking to him in a matter of days.

[–] Misconduct@startrek.website 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] ButtBidet@hexbear.net 13 points 1 year ago

I sent him ~~a few~~ 3 message to see how he was doing. NGL we weren't super tight before COVID, we never hung out outside of work, and people not masking around me really drove a wedge between us. I'm trying hard not to justify what happened, but who knows maybe I am a little bit.

[–] Kissaki@feddit.de 20 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I don't think taking action to fill a hole is indicative of not caring.

[–] lorez@lemm.ee 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] Aceticon@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Hole filling action, even!

[–] Misconduct@startrek.website 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

True but there's also absolutely no reason to think they care. Even if someone dies. Because they really don't. So it feels extra soulless when they send out the email redistributing tasks right after the generic condolences email that goes out to the whole floor

[–] Maalus@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

I mean, how do you gauge how much someone cares? What would make you think someone cared (either at work or anywhere else)? I think all actions by a company would make people think it's just an unempathetic gesture. Even if it was a small company and the employee was there for very long and was actually missed.

[–] FredericChopin_@feddit.uk 7 points 1 year ago

This depends. I’ve had easily 100 shit jobs where nobody cared. I’m now a software developer for a small business <10 employees and they do care.

I am aware I am living the dream now and this can’t be the case for most.