Duranie

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[–] Duranie@literature.cafe 24 points 7 months ago (5 children)

My son made a mistake on his state taxes and his return was rejected. The letter he got back basically said "we couldn't verify your reported property taxes, so you can resubmit a correction or do nothing and accept our version of your taxes" (where he gets back about $200 less because of a typo.)

So, like, yeah. They're just comparing your notes to theirs, with the default benefiting the state.

[–] Duranie@literature.cafe 5 points 7 months ago

Not sure of the ages of your children, but as a 52yo who grew up in the States, I averaged 2-3 hours of homework a night in grade school. They'd tell us "oh, it's only about 15-20 minutes per class" which doesn't sound terrible, except that it was more like 20-30 minutes of work x 4-6 classes. By 7th grade I burned out and realized that the world didn't end if I started skipping homework, and my test grades remained about the same. I just had to live with the stifling anxiety over getting in trouble for not getting my homework done.

Thankfully by the time my kids came along schools started pulling back on the volumes of unnecessary homework. I also never pressured them to get every assignment done, but instead asked them if they understood what they were doing. As adults having completed further educational programs, they did just fine. I'm glad that as time goes on, kids are getting more of a chance to be kids.

[–] Duranie@literature.cafe 6 points 7 months ago

Not my choice for chopping wood, but even this one as is could fuck someone up with a good swing.

[–] Duranie@literature.cafe 4 points 7 months ago (1 children)

My brain initially thought that you weren't acoustic.

Not sure what to do with that, so I'm awkwardly sharing.

[–] Duranie@literature.cafe 16 points 8 months ago (2 children)

The radar technician? Dude, Matt straight up sucks.

[–] Duranie@literature.cafe 12 points 8 months ago

Gen X here, and it's a struggle to not do it lol.

[–] Duranie@literature.cafe 10 points 8 months ago

Lol then I forget I added it at the beginning and end up making an awkward sandwich lol 🥴.

[–] Duranie@literature.cafe 4 points 8 months ago (2 children)

Mom - "Stop playing your video game, it's time for dinner."

Son - "But I'm not hungry"

Mom - "Don't tell me that, I can see your teeth are hard. Now go wash your hands."

[–] Duranie@literature.cafe 5 points 8 months ago

"I'm still surprised people in the US actually vote only for people so old they can't reasonably do the job properly. I mean what's up with that?"

When it always comes down to 2 choices, it ends up being not much of a choice. 😐

[–] Duranie@literature.cafe 24 points 8 months ago

Yet the price is in euros...

Point being, the US is fucked but we don't have the monopoly on it.

[–] Duranie@literature.cafe 117 points 8 months ago (26 children)

Something I haven't seen other commenters bring up that can have a huge impact, is the overall lifestyles people are living.

The unhealthiest years of my life were when I was working 2 jobs and struggling to keep a roof over mine and my 3 kids heads. Stress and depression were huge problems and money was tight, so sometimes the little bit of dopamine or serotonin from eating a "treat" were the highlights of the day. Add to that, the guilt of not being around to cook regular meals for my kids lead to 1) making large amounts of food on my one day off that could be eaten as leftovers throughout the week or 2) easy convenience foods (frozen pizzas, boxed Mac and cheese, etc) that the kids could make when I wasn't around.

Fast forward many years - my kids are adults taking care of themselves and I'm down to 1 good job that offers financial stability. My diet and health have completely changed. I actually have the time and energy to cook and plan better.

I'm not saying this to shift blame or responsibility, but to bring a different experience. When I hear (hopefully well meaning) people suggest "just cook healthier meals" it strikes me about the same as "stop eating avocado toast and you could afford a house."

[–] Duranie@literature.cafe 34 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Can you please not? Fucking hell.

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