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Why do people think it’s selfish when I don’t get them things/ask about them, and how can I get along with women more? I don’t understand social stuff at all. (lemmings.world)

submitted 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) by CatDemons4@lemmings.world to c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world

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Seriously. I’m asocial and depressed. Also, I like spending time with people and how they’re there for me when I need it, but I also have several mental illnesses and no empathy.

I’m not obligated to give you something back when you buy something for me. I want it, and you’re nice enough to get it for me. Why do I have to give you something back? I don’t know what you want. I can guess but I can’t really tune into other people that well.

And when people ask how I am, I just say “Fine”. Why do I have to ask how they are? They never told me to ask how they are, they asked how I was. Also, what’s so wrong with “Nothing/Nun” when they ask what I did? Genuinely, I didn’t do much, there’s nothing to talk about.

It also feels easier to talk to men because they don’t seem to compete with me or expect much from me, how can I fix that so I can talk to my own gender?

I just texted loads of messages to my friend and she blocked me again. What should I do? Why does this girl hate me so much? in c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

[–] CatDemons4@lemmings.world -1 points 3 weeks ago

No it’s real. Sadly I’ve had drama with this person for a while now

I just texted loads of messages to my friend and she blocked me again. What should I do? Why does this girl hate me so much? in c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

[–] CatDemons4@lemmings.world -1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Why is she asking me if im ok? She should stop asking

So… one of my friends blocked me because she’s going to “leave me alone now”. Is this a bad sign? in c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

Are mood problems a “turn off” for people even when they’re hard to manage? in c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world

[–] CatDemons4@lemmings.world 0 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Friends 1 and 2 are usually kind of quiet. People spend time with Friend 1 because she’s a gamer who just emulates my behavior and “worships” me. Friend 2 is quiet and doesn’t seem to have many friends besides us. She seems usually sweet, though.

Are mood problems a “turn off” for people even when they’re hard to manage? in c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world

[–] CatDemons4@lemmings.world 0 points 3 weeks ago

I think being depressed makes me anti social.

Are mood problems a “turn off” for people even when they’re hard to manage? in c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world

[–] CatDemons4@lemmings.world -1 points 3 weeks ago

I do like women. Women are beautiful.

I, in fact, tried dating one at 16, but I was also dating this dude and trying to break up. She didn’t know I was dating him, though (she never even asked) and caught me with him. She was very upset, so I told my homophobic asshole friend to go F herself for telling her I have a boyfriend :(

So yeah, my big-mouthed friend ruined that for me, sadly. I told her to never speak to me again and she couldn’t sit with me for the rest of sophomore year, but since I’m quite sweet, I forgave her. i know she was devoted to me.

Are mood problems a “turn off” for people even when they’re hard to manage? in c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world

[–] CatDemons4@lemmings.world -1 points 3 weeks ago

But I find women pretty…? Sure, I can’t name any female crushes, but that doesn’t make me less bi/pan. Sexuality is a spectrum.

Yes, I LOVE men, and women don’t give me the spark, but I love the idea of finally being able to say “I love my girlfriend!”. Plus, a lot of women are very soft and playful, and as a woman, I think I could date and understand most women.

I just haven’t found the right woman because my type is athletic and extroverted. Shy people are annoying, TBH. And they HAVE to like men. Part of dating women means I have to relate to them, and I can’t relate to a lesbian woman.

Are mood problems a “turn off” for people even when they’re hard to manage? in c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world

[–] CatDemons4@lemmings.world -1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I don’t know if I’m any of these, to be honest. I just have low empathy and high standards.

Are mood problems a “turn off” for people even when they’re hard to manage? in c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world

[–] CatDemons4@lemmings.world -2 points 3 weeks ago

But they DESERVE ITTTT 😣

As a sports fan, I hate when people are bad at things. Why even try if you suck, honestly?

Are mood problems a “turn off” for people even when they’re hard to manage? in c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world

[–] CatDemons4@lemmings.world 0 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

No, I’m being serious. I don’t get why because I have these two friends who are willing to talk about how much they hate hanging out with people and how useless other people are. Besides, as much as I’ve tried to work on it, I’m still angry, so my friends should love me for that like I love them. I also don’t have much empathy and don’t really understand nuances/what affects people.

Are mood problems a “turn off” for people even when they’re hard to manage? in c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world

[–] CatDemons4@lemmings.world -1 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

Thank you. I’ll try to get a therapist and work on it.

Sadly, only two people want to still hang out with me and the rest are A holes. They and I like to talk about how much we hate being around people (it’s EXHAUSTINGGG) and frankly, how useless everyone is. They can lend an ear and agree with me on how it’s basically us against the world, so why can’t my other friends be as decent? It’s what I don’t get :(

Are mood problems a “turn off” for people even when they’re hard to manage? in c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world

[–] CatDemons4@lemmings.world -2 points 3 weeks ago (3 children)

Why do people assume I’m narcissistic? I’m just autistic/ADHD and depressed :(

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Are mood problems a “turn off” for people even when they’re hard to manage? (lemmings.world)

submitted 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) by CatDemons4@lemmings.world to c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world

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I have anger issues, which I can’t control. I am considered conventionally attractive (though I don’t see it) and many people think I’m cool and want to be around me.

Like I said, though, I have anger issues where I will act quite aggressively towards people. One time, someone I knew said hi to me, so I screamed “I HEARD YOU”. I also tend to type very dryly and with periods when I’m upset (which is admittedly ~90% of the time but I can’t control that).

My friend doesn’t talk to me as much and I really don’t get why because even when I’m “aggressive”, it’s tough love and I’m trying to help them. If I didn’t love her, I wouldn’t be like that.

I’m even like this with guys I’ve dated and I love them not as brothers.

Women also piss me off more than men do, so I hang out more with them because I feel like they get me and aren’t as bitchy. (Part of the reason why I’m bi curious but never found a woman I’d date, excluding one I almost went out with).

While I do tend to praise men and ignore women, as some people say, it’s tough love since I think women should be the best versions of themselves :) [I believe this is why society is so hard on women as a whole]

But yeah, TLDR; My mood problems impact the people I care about, and I’m wondering if it’s a turn off since some people don’t want to be around me rather than loving me for me.

I have a reason for my actions, people just choose to ignore those reasons and misinterpret me.