When they keep making/having excuses why they are unavailable
this post was submitted on 16 Feb 2025
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Everytime I walk into the room she grabs the nearest stranger and starts making out with them. My buddy said it's because she can't even bear to have a conversation with me but I'm pretty sure it's just because the sight of me turns her on that much.
Time to top-up your EQ, mate.
"Every time I walk into a room she gets so turned on and grabs the nearest stranger and starts making out with them."
When you ask them out, they say no.
When you keep making efforts to talk to them and they don't pursue the conversation.
She puts out that restraining order on you.
They want to spend $150 going out to eat when we could get 3 frozen pizzas and 30 beers for a bang date in the basement.
one is a keeper, other is not
Whatβs soccer have to do with any of this?
Man I used to love basement dates with strangers.
Bear maceβ¦ wasp sprayβ¦
Short responses like "yeah" or "I'm good" with our any substance or depth, when it's over a extended period of time. Sometimes people do this because there overwhelmed or other things but when it's this all the time, then its a problem
Do we need either type of sign? I mean this is lemmy we are all adults arent we? If you are interested in someone go up, greet them politely, ask how theyre doing, say "I was wondering if you'd want to grab lunch or something together, and get to know eachother?" after a bit of casual conversation. If they say no drop it. If they are interested even if busy theyll try to find time to do it. Nobody is that busy all the time. Or if they are they cant date anyway.
If they say yes go to lunch get to know eachother more, if you enjoy it and go out together again bring them a romantic gift of some kind to make sure you didnt miscommunicate about your intentions. Don't play games, and guess and wonder. Be direct, but polite, and respect their decisions. If you are afraid to get rejected you've got 2 options. Get over it, or die alone. Always trying to compute in your head what someone else is thinking is gonna drive you crazy. Just live life.