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One of my best friends from childhood ended up on heroin shortly after I moved away with my bf (now husband). We still talked occasionally through FB or Insta, but a few years ago we lost touch, and shortly after that my mom sent me a newspaper article about his arrest. They found CP on his phone and computer.. I refuse to write to him. Despite growing up together. That's a connection I'm glad to cut, no matter the circumstance.

My father and paternal grandmother chose to be homophobic when I (and my cousin) both came out of the closet. "We'll pray for your soul, but you're going to hell." My childhood was bad enough, but to be told that after coming out was the final straw. I haven't spoken to either of them in years. I don't even know if she's alive anymore.

Final year of my college degree a friend of mine asked if he could stay with me. He had been kicked out of a couple other universities and finally begged his way into one where I was currently living.Told him I didn't want drama or partying in my place.

Guy would routinely show up stoned, started getting his parents to bug me about getting him a loan, general disruptive behavior. Lying, telling my gf (now wife) one thing then telling me something different.

Came to a head when I got a call during a night class, he had come home drunk or stoned or whatever and began telling my gf he was thinking about killing himself. Now when my wife was younger she had attempted suicide so this struck a chord with her. I of course raced home and we took him into a hospital to get him some help. He proceeded to tell the doctors something completely different and was sent home with us.

Kicked him out as soon as he found a new place to stay. Haven't seen or talked to him since.

The person I had to cut out of my life kept pushing religion on me.

Only reaches out when they want a hookup for weed, and once they find another source they ghost me. Even though we went to HS together and he says he’s my friend. Fuck that guy

Example 1. (My favorite) During the 2020 election, after Biden took the lead and looked to be the projected winner, "friend" at the time said quite confidently "Let the recount begin!" and then after [Trump] lost, she sent me one word replies. I also found out later she had a cardboard cut out/was taken in front of a picture of Trump. Example 2. (recent) During an acquaintance's birthday she said the hard n word for no reason at all. It wasn't even warranted. Nor was she driving. I set a boundary after that saying, you use that term in front of me again, we will not hang out. I don't hang out with racists.

My (53m) idiot older brothers (61 and 59 respectively).

The oldest decided to scam me and the middle brother out of our shares of the family farm. It's not a huge amount of money, but the fact he did what he did is enough.

My middle brother informed me, at Thanksgiving 2 years ago, that he was a member of the oath keepers and that essentially he was the new patriarch of the family. All of my political beliefs are bullshit and I had to subscribe to the right wingnut bullshit he adhered to. Military this and guns that. The stupid fuck was in the army for 6 years back in the 80's.

Haven't spoken to either of those assholes in years, nor will I ever again.

My friend's brother in law is a complete dick but I never said anything until I got into a long term relationship. At that point I figured I could afford to lose my friend in the event he took his brother in law's side so I cut that dude out of my life.

My friend decided to stay in my life so that's a win. It's nice to have a friend but not need them so much that you'll put up with assholes.

Guy was my best friend in middle school. We reconnected after I graduated from college, played and beat L4D and L4D2 together. Then he started sending me political memes, and they were all fascist.

I tried to reason with him, but then he refused to engage with anything that was longer than like a page, or any video/audio source longer than about five minutes, but didn't seem to have any problem sending me stuff way longer than that.

I still wonder if there was more I could have done. But I just didn't need that in my life. I'm not some hero, I'm a downwardly-mobile working-class schlub who's pretty good at playing piano and riding a bike. I shouldn't be responsible for dragging this dipshit back from the depths of fascism just because he sat next to me in seventh grade history class, and honestly, with some of the things he claimed to believe, I probably didn't even want him on my side anymore.

That's what I tell myself, anyway.

Two separate people, and it was them being alcoholics.

Stole money from another friend after inviting them to a party at that friend’s (the victim’s) house

Just be a toxic person to talk and be around. Horrible really. Constantly felt less-than.

Did the family not believe she said those things or were they fine with it?

That was a roller coaster...

They did the silent treatment on me for a long time.