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I've had female friends and I've had male friends but for some reason I've noticed that females are more intimate and close to there friends then males are. Is this true for all male friends?

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[โ€“] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 3 points 1 month ago

There are no universal truths about the behavior of "men" and "women" (nor other gender identities)

However, I believe men (at least in the US) are often socialized to more emotionally closed off. Like the only emotion allowed is anger. Other emotions are seen as weak or femme (which are viewed as the same)

[โ€“] nek0d3r@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago

I think it would be hard to nail down the overall demeanor. Of course there's the stereotype that men are closed up emotionally and sometimes male toxicity enforces that, but I think it really just comes down to how people develop emotionally and if they feel secure to trust others with those emotions.

[โ€“] otp@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 month ago

*their

"there friends" would be like... friends that are somewhere else. As opposed to "here friends", I guess

[โ€“] robot_dog_with_gun@hexbear.net 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

maybe 100+ years ago before gay panic really got going.

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[โ€“] h1ghfly3r@lemm.ee 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I'm (m) somewhat "intimate" with my friends I'll hug and stuff. But I'll play it off as a joke half the time depending on who. I was fortunate enough to have made really great friends in high-school that I can be more friendly and am secure enough that if anyone said anything it wouldn't phase me

[โ€“] h1ghfly3r@lemm.ee 1 points 1 month ago

Adding on to this, I'm more secure when we've had more to drink so a "drunken hug" is more acceptable

[โ€“] PaX@hexbear.net 2 points 1 month ago

Some are, I'm not a man but I have male friends and we're very intimate and close, hug and cuddle each other, express our affection and our emotions openly

Ofc I have had the "bro" type of male friends, where it seems they feel like we can't do that kind of stuff even if we do rly care for each other :(

It's much better in queer and queer-friendly spaces ime

[โ€“] MrGabr@ttrpg.network 1 points 1 month ago

There was a ~1.5 year old reddit thread that talked about this

[โ€“] jimmy90@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

yes, we're not all incels and taters and fundamentalist wannabe strong men

[โ€“] FauxPseudo@lemmy.world -1 points 1 month ago (12 children)
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