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You got me, kid. I had a stroke at 42 after busting my ass forever, and it's been the best thing to happen to me yet.
Basically just enjoy everything outside of work, politics, and religion. Family, friends, and yourself are the most important things in life.
Try to find a job you enjoy from 9-5. That means focusing on activities you enjoy that are the main activity of said job. I worked in a pet store because it afforded me 30% of my time playing with puppies, even though the remaining 70% was cleaning puppy shit and stocking goods. I now work as a therapist because I spend 70% of my time talking to people about their problems (which I enjoy), and 30% doing paperwork and correspondence. Make your job something you enjoy most of them time and it gets much easier. Then, you retire and collect Social Security. As long as you’ve worked for most of your life, that’ll be a decent retirement. You’ll have to live frugally, but it’ll be livable.
Also, if you can manage it, invest $10,000 as early as you can in a stock market index fund and pay for a fund manager. By the time you retire, that will provide you with a substantial cushion to rest on.
In the end, it comes down to "what do you want?"
Recognize nobody is going to just hand it to you. So whatever it is that you want, you have to work for it.
Stick a photo on your monitor if you have to. My desktop is a photo of my house to remind me of the mortgage payment.
Right but I think the feeling is that there are people who it's just being handed to and they spend all of their time making sure I'll work increasingly harder to get what I want and likely do that until I'm near death.
I had a friend who was absolutely determined to never work for anyone else, and so he taught himself how to make wire-wrap jewellery to sell. It's far from an easy thing to do, as he was incredibly motivated and spent most of his time working on it, but if you really do want too, there are ways that a person can support themselves through their own direct actions.
And yes, I second others that suggest you really should spend less time on social media.
Move to a really poor country and meet real people there. Your life will get better, inevitably.
america is a capitalist country, or so i read and heard. money should be the motivator here.
and i also see your point. the general trend of money is to move upward. your fighting chance is to get the money to stay longer in your hands for you to benefit before it gets sucked up.
all i can say here is don't stay too much on the bigger things. more likely, you will not have control for any of those. focus on the smaller things you can change on the dailies.
To generalize the answer a bit, if for no other goal, than make the goal to move to a country that better aligns with your beliefs and that you feel rewards you properly for your work. Make incremental steps to achieving that (what exactly the list looks like depends upon the person's current state and where they want to go) and make marking each one off a goal and motivation.
If it is the election results that are making me feel this way. I try to be optimistic even about that. I imagine what if the party I did not vote for, manages to do the good things they promised. In USA example would it not be awesome if Trump actually manages to end some wars (in at least somehow fair way)?
Your mistake is assuming the actual definition of "a fair way" and what Trump means by it are not so far apart from each other it's not even funny.
For him the "fair way" for Ukraine is for them to submit and lick Putin's boot, and have their eastern regions subjected to the full scale cultural genocide already in effect.
For him the "fair way" for Palestine is naked ethnic cleansing and genocide.
So yeah, it would in fact not be awesome for those things to happen.
E: grammar
You are describing the worst case scenario. This is not how optimism works.
There's a difference between optimism and delusion
Optimism is good
Delusion is not
The optimistic view is that's the worst that happens.
i remember what happened last time.
i remember almost losing the most important person in the world to me as a direct result of that asswipe.
i expect even worse than what i could possibly come up with on my own.
You know this is not true. And I believe it is also harmful responding this in a post of someone who is struggling with doom/pessimistic thinking.
Frankly it is. It's a shame you've deluded yourself into believing otherwise.
Delusion is not the answer to doom and pessimism. You prepare for the worst, you hope for the best, and you keep doing the best you can with the things you have. But you sure as fuck do not delude yourself.
