Lots of lies in there, also pretty sexist. No need to maintain shitty gender stereotypes.
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Can't really argue against tiddies though, they're pretty self explanatory as the image suggests.
Wont deny that :D Maybe my response came off a bit harsh, but i just dont like when people degrade other ways of living in order to prove their point. Although i can understand the appeal of being a cute girl, it wont inherently make you a nice person.
Team rainbow checking in. This comes off more as a chaser than anything else.
That sounds like terf garbage, why are you trying to take away validation from trans women, we're not 'forcing gender stereotypes' onto people, maybe if you were trans you'd understand what it's like to not be able to live life as who you really are and be forced to pretend you're something you are not.
They're not being transphobic, they're correctly pointing out that your post's description of how women differ from men is wildly inaccurate.
I can’t tell if either or both of them were sarcastic.
hiya, am transfem
this is forcing garbage gender stereotypes
hope that clears things up 👍
I understand the sentiment but there's a lot in the image that's arguably gender essentialist and/or not accurate.
Some thoughts:
Titties. Self-explanatory
Indeed they are, but they're not a necessary condition to being a woman.
Decimate your fapping addiction
I think my main issue is the implicit assumption that the viewer has such an addiction to begin with. Also estrogen has ways of compensating for a lowered libido, such as a reduced/eliminated refractory period (of course ymmv). Source: guess ;p
Ability to wear adorable clothes
Boys can do this too!
ditch your angry, masculine mannerisms
This kind of just assumes that men have angry mannerisms, and is what I take most issue with tbh.
The path to anger management is primarily through introspection and/or therapy. Estrogen will not magically overhaul your personality, habits, and tendencies; there are things it changes, and it's helped my mental state immensely—I wouldn't give it up for the world and it helped facilitate the changes I needed for myself—but there's so much extra work involved to in self-improvement and actualization than just acknowledging your gender identity and taking hrt.
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Girl, this community is full of trans folks, and not all of us are trans women. I'd wager the majority of people annoyed with this post are not cis, and it seems like some of them are trans women, too
It's not even something I would post in a community just for trans women, like what about trans women that don't end up with these characteristics? Are people only trans women if they identify with these changes? Why is the assumption that men (and I guess pre-transition trans women) have anger issues and porn addictions? Why are those qualities tied to their hormones and physical bodies, so trans women who can't or won't medically transition are excluded from benefitting?
validation for one group should not come at the expense of another imo ><
trans women can be validated while not making men feel bad about themselves by pointing out a skewed perspective on masculinity
thankyous - a trans boy
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This whole trying to convince strangers they are trans thing is so unbelievably yucky and I'm certain it makes plenty of good people question their support of trans rights
Egg Prime Directive, you NEVER try to crack someone else's egg. It is imperative to respect people's gender identities always, that means listening to them, even if they don't conform to traditional gender norms. If a person is taking HRT to look fem but says they're male, then they're male, it's valid. No one has the right to argue that he's semantically a trans woman, because gender identity is ultimately based on how one identifies, not ones actions, choices, or desires.
Please follow the egg prime directive.
So many people tried to tell me I was trans and I was but it just led me to me repressing memories and avoiding the topic. It was extremely harmful to me that all of my friends did this.
What worked was someone sending me to a website and saying "read this, if you have any questions, I'm here for you and I have some answers and more websites."
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It's like unironically trying to turn the frogs gay. It won't help any good cause.
It plays into bigoted ideas. Groomers are trying to turn your kid trans! Look, here's proof!
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This post is extremely disrespectful to transmascs and gender nonconforming individuals, and just in general gives really awful vibes.
First of all this assumes that a person must be transfem or a woman to want, have, or work to get these things. This is not correct. A person may desire any of these things while identifying as female, male, or even Get this, NonBinary, yeah wild isn't it. That's because presentation and gender identity are separate things altogether.
Which is also the reason why this phrase
-ability to wear adorable clothes
Is flat out wrong, because gender and presentation are not the same. In addition this take is extremely harmful and reinforces gender stereotypes. I know people are starting to think that's not a real thing and that only terfs say that, but reinforcing gender stereotypes is a real thing and it's really disrespectful both to trans and GNC people.
-ditch your angry, masculine mannerisms
This is both hurtful to transmasc people and is just in general extremely misandristic. You should be ashamed of yourself, this hating men thing is grossly reminiscent of TERF rhetoric.
-decimate your fapping addiction
Ignoring the fact that this assumes the viewer even has one in the first place (which many won't) this isn't even really true, because estrogen affects different people's sex drive differently, some may lose that urge, but for others it may be just as strong, some might be even stronger. I have no personal experience (and I don't plan on it) this is mostly gathered from things I've read online and the experiences my trans friends have shared with me, so take that how you will.
-improved mental state
This really depends, is E what this person wants? If so then yes it certainly would, but if they don't it would probably cause the opposite effect. It can lead to an improvement, but only if the person wants it and the affects that come with it, but if they don't want it, then it's not going to be a good experience for them.
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[laughs in trans man] no thanks, it's all yours.
mrow... most of these r not based on gender ithinks. if ur a man like this id just go see a doctor or a therapist. this post does seem to not like men which ithink is nothelpful and a bit mean tbh >~<
im a boy and like cute clothes, soft skin, cute hips allllll mine :3
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While a few of these points are misleading sexist, or wrong, I can personally attest to the longer thicker hair part. I've watched my beard grow in hundreds of times and with only a month on HRT the peach fuzz between my cheekbones and beard became long enough to pinch and tug at.
If you want smoother skin, you could always just exfoliate better. I used to think it was just guy things until my sister got this gnarly sugar and shea body scrub. Sloughs off dead skin way better than what I was using before and now my skin feels as smooth as a newborn baby.
I actually had a longer write up on a bunch of other points, but in a facetious way; however I see you're getting enough of others taking the piss outta the humor so I'll just leave this useful tidbit because I'm not trying to be hypercritical of a meme.
No please give me the opposite of all that I beg of you
I'm too bald already for the hair, and I fixed the masculine rage with therapy and Daoism.
Tiddies tho... 🤔
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- inability to pee everywhere
- period
- inability to pee everywhere
Some trans women choose to keep their penis. I won't judge them for that but personally I don't understand it, this thing makes me hella dysphoric (especially when it goes hard). I sit down to pee all the time, even though I don't need to, it just feels more natural ya know. Hope to get bottom surgery in the future though.
- period
I wish, unfortunately that can't really happen for me, just another reminder that I'll never be fully female 😭
There are plenty of cis women who don't have periods. It's not a defining factor and you're still a woman even if you don't have a period.
just another reminder that I’ll never be fully female
That's nonsense (if you mean this seriously). I'm really sorry that you feel this way and for dysphoria like that :/ but maybe it helps to say it again: trans women are just women, as cis women are (and trans men are also just men, as cis men are). You are fully female.
(For the record I don't like this post but of course that's independent to this.)
Chill, I'm working on it
I'd like to inform you that those pills are actually blue where I live
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I'm a cishet man and already have tiddies thank you very much.
I'm also a cis male and I got hair so thick it takes around an hour for the barber to just cut through the helmet I grew in a month, so no thanks I don't need it to be even thicker.
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the girl in the illustration is lacking a few of those features, though
Damm ... I'm a straight men ... but you're making this shit sound good. Maybe I should give it a try
I'm pretty sure I'd end up as a just as "cute" woman as I am as a man. Nah, thanks.
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