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[–] Conyak@lemmy.tf 138 points 1 year ago (10 children)

This is really hard for me but I have had to put my foot down in recent times. It still makes me uncomfortable but I just can’t support this anymore. If I’m sitting down at a restaurant with a server I tip 20 - 25% but I’m tired of tipping for takeout and I absolutely refuse to give extra when checking out at a store.

[–] brygphilomena@lemmy.world 77 points 1 year ago (14 children)

20-25% is still pretty excessive. I try to stay around 10-15%.

We have let tips creep up a lot in recent years.

[–] JJROKCZ@lemmy.world 21 points 1 year ago (9 children)

Tips have crept up because cost of living has crept up but minimum wage has not. People can’t live on 2.25 plus tips and 7.25 if you don’t make enough tips to be more than 7.25. It’s just insultingly low wages and impossible to live off of

[–] funnystuff97@lemmy.world 32 points 1 year ago

Tip value sure, but tip percentage? I mean think about it, the price of the food will go up, so the percent of that elevated food price will also go up. Like, if I bought a $20 meal and tipped 15%, that's a $3. But if because of inflation or whatever, the $20 meal increases its price to $40, a 15% tip is now $6. The tip has gone up, but the percentage has remained the same.

So why are tips now going up to 21, 23, 25, hell I've seen a tablet that suggested 30%? (We all know the answer why, I'm being rherorical.)

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[–] FederatedSaint@lemmy.world 36 points 1 year ago

It's intended to make you feel guilty. That's the point. "Make someone feel uncomfortable enough to give you money." Don't give in. Stay strong.

And 15% for table service is absolutely fine.

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[–] johnthedoe@lemmy.ml 104 points 1 year ago (5 children)

This is very occasionally popping up in restaurants in Australia. Whether you live here or travelling. Do not tip unless they did something incredible. I’m talking the fish brought your grandma back to life and the chef reconnected you with your long lost father. We don’t want to encourage tipping culture. We want to increase minimum wage. It’s like $23 now and we need that to keep growing with the economy.

[–] PM_ME_FEET_PICS@sh.itjust.works 23 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Fight it.

It's bled into Canada like that as well and now it's an expected thing in food service.

Cabs ask for tip here now. We have Pizza Delight out here with mandatory 15% tip after tax on thier buffet.

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[–] Kalkaline@leminal.space 100 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Tipping culture is capitalists telling workers it's their fault for not making enough money. It's true though, because workers don't organize nearly enough to change the culture. People should stick up for themselves and their fellow employees and demand a better wage and benefits.

[–] CobblerScholar@lemmy.world 25 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Capitalize the profits and socialize the losses

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[–] samus12345@lemmy.world 96 points 1 year ago (2 children)
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[–] obinice@lemmy.world 68 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I recently had a pretty crappy experience at a restaurant for a few reasons, the last being their tipping system. You won't believe how they asked me to tip, it was mad.

  1. There was no menu, I had to Google their name and find their website (which was some obscure subdomain on some obscure food payment site).
  2. Their site didn't work in Chrome (on any of the phones we had with us), luckily I had a backup browser installed that worked.
  3. I had to order and pay on my phone, unable to use the cash I had budgeted and brought with me for the meal.
  4. It asked me how much I would like to tip, but this is paying DURING MY ORDER, when I had not yet received any service or food. I chose not to tip.

Tipping, here in the UK, is only something you do when you were very happy with the service (and have the extra cash you don't mind giving away as charity, basically). Our waiters, as with every worker in the country, are paid a real wage that isn't designed to be subsidised by begging.

So, being asked to tip for the good service BEFORE receiving the service? That's INSANE.

Due to the various ridiculous issues we had just trying to order food and pay for it, and the audacity of being asked to tip that way, I will not be going back there again.

What's wrong with the tried and true system of a waiter taking your order, you eat, they take your payment at the table either with a normal wireless chip-and-pin machine or by cash, and then you leave? It's simple, easy, smooth and fast 🤦‍♀️

[–] BackOnMyBS@lemmy.world 13 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Yeah, that tipping before service idea has to be costing business. There are several places I avoid because they request tip before service. My local Foxtail coffee shop is one of those places, and the lowest tip option is 15%. On the 3 times I have tipped, they still gave me subpar service. Like, they didn't even do the bare minimum, let alone anything exceptional.

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[–] AlligatorBlizzard@sh.itjust.works 54 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I occasionally go to a liquor store where the till asks if you want to tip, and it's the most ridiculous thing ever because it's a small store and the clerk isn't helping you find shit.

[–] itsgroundhogdayagain@lemmy.ml 23 points 1 year ago (1 children)

and the clerk is paid more than the $2.whatever per hour that sit down restaurant wait staff get.

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[–] Imgonnatrythis@sh.itjust.works 49 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Not tomorrow either. Flashing that in front of me doesn't mean I'm tipping you for grabbing a donut 6feet away from you and putting it in a bag. That's literally your job. Charge me the amount it costs for the item and your labor don't try to prey on my charitabilty. I use those feelings to distribute the limited extra I have to give to research for sick kids, educational charities, housing initiatives, and anti-gun lobbyists. Fuck if you're anywhere near those categories donut slinger. Tell your boss to fuck himself for even putting that shit in front of customers.

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[–] llama@midwest.social 48 points 1 year ago

It's getting ridiculous though like even gas stations are starting to ask. Like sorry why should I leave a tip to get a Snickers and bottle of water rung up?

[–] greater_potater@lemmy.world 42 points 1 year ago (7 children)

Reminder for everyone that when there are efforts to change the system and have employers pay higher wages instead, the majority of workers are vehemently against it.

You'll see people in this thread telling you that it's not the workers' fault, and that taking it out on the workers by not tipping is not fair, as if they're victims of the system.

Most pressure to maintain the system (or add tips to new industries) comes from the workers, and I feel that not tipping is entirely appropriate if you want it to change.

When the workers themselves start clamoring for raising wages and getting rid of tipping culture, I will empathize with them more.

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[–] Baphomet_The_Blasphemer@lemmy.world 40 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I have no problem tipping wait staff or bartenders for the service, but I'll be damned if the cashier at my local Chinese restaurant is getting a tip because they handed me a bag of carryout food I ordered online... tipping has definitely gotten out of control.

[–] bobs_monkey@lemm.ee 19 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I partially blame the POS programmers that have that option for the take out counter, then especially so for the managers that implement it

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[–] Aggravationstation@lemmy.film 33 points 1 year ago (8 children)

One more reason I would hate to live in America. In Britain we don't give tips.

[–] blackn1ght@feddit.uk 17 points 1 year ago (1 children)

There's a street food hall place in Manchester where you can only order via an app and some food businessess force you to pay a "tip" while ordering your food. Can pay 5, 10 or 15%.

Who the fuck do they think is going to willingly pay more than they have to? It's blatantly a service charge, you don't give tips before you've even ordered your food.

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[–] KoalaUnknown@lemmy.world 32 points 1 year ago (1 children)

What annoys me isn't that they ask for a tip, it's how much they ask. I'm willing to round up to the nearest dollar if the service was good, but those little iPads always seem to ask for at least 15%. I am not giving a 15% tip to someone who only pressed buttons on a tablet.

[–] pimeys@lemmy.nauk.io 22 points 1 year ago (1 children)

This was so weird in the US. Everywhere you get asked for a tip. I got a tip screen even in a supermarket once. For the cashier. I got back home to the EU today and was happy to not tip anymore everywhere...

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[–] cryptosporidium140@lemmy.world 32 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I went to a takeout place once where they ask you out loud about if you want to add a tip and I said no. It's the most awkward thing to say out loud. At least when they ask about donating to save animals or whatever the animal isn't right there staring you down

[–] PeleSpirit@lemmy.world 29 points 1 year ago (3 children)

"No, thank you." is my go to.

[–] bobs_monkey@lemm.ee 17 points 1 year ago (1 children)

For real. I place an order, you hand me food. I am not paying extra because you typed an order in your computer and you handed me food. And they still look at you like you kicked a kitten at some places.

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[–] aplomBomb@midwest.social 32 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

I don't tip, but that's achieved by never doing anything where tipping is expected.

[–] threeduck@aussie.zone 54 points 1 year ago (4 children)

I pre-ordered a pair of shoes online and the website asked for a tip.

In Australia.

[–] danielton@lemmy.frozeninferno.xyz 28 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Just wait until you get a tip prompt on a self-checkout kiosk.

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[–] DJDarren@thelemmy.club 28 points 1 year ago (7 children)

Over here in the UK we don't tip as a rule, unless we've been directly served by someone, and even then it's mostly just to leave whatever change there may be.

But it's become very fucking common for chain shops to ask if we want to round up to the nearest £ and donate that money to whichever charity they're working with.

And my answer is always, always, no.

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[–] CADmonkey@lemmy.world 21 points 1 year ago (1 children)

What's even more fun are the places that ask for a tip... and the tip doesn't go to the employees.

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[–] FunkyMonk@kbin.social 21 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Just another example on how easy it is to divide us and how the class war was lost long.. long... long ago.

[–] dingus@lemmy.ml 19 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (7 children)

It's the tipped employees who don't realize they are getting fucked and maybe their clients shouldn't be the people expected to fill the shortfalls of their paychecks instead of, you know, their boss. It's not the people who work regular jobs themselves where they are not tipped.

Source: Working the first tipped job I have ever worked and motherfucker these people are entitled. Delivering pizza to poor people living off of disability and judging them for not tipping. It makes me fucking furious. I live in a state with one of the highest minimum wages in the country, it's not like these people are being paid $2.13 an hour. Depending on the day they can make $30+ an hour when you include tips. They're so fucking angry and shitty and petty when people don't tip. It's like, I guess fuck anyone who just wanted some comfort food in the middle of their shitty lives and it's not their fault your boss doesn't pay you better. I have previously only worked jobs where I was never tipped but still had customers acting entitled. People who demand or expect tips on top of the highest minimum wage in the country are fucking crybabies angry at the wrong fucking people. That's on them, not the people tired of the bullshit tipping culture.

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[–] PatFussy@lemm.ee 21 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Tipping culture is just a way that disproportionally affects workers in such a way that there should be a mathematical equation that compares titty size of the waitress to how much you will tip. Theres a reason why people think there is misandry in fields that require tipping. I try to not tip whenever I can unless I am friends with the people there. Why? Chances are, you get paid a minimum of 10+ an hour wage and you get pissy if I even think you didn't deserve that cherry on top. No I dont want to pay you more than I make an hour for serving my food. Its not up to me to decide how much you deserve for your efforts. Yes Ill be bitter, i dont care, i fucking hate tipping culture. Ill fight anyone that thinks otherwise... in a videogame of course.

Edit: also I want to give a shout out to BJs for being the most toxic environments for tipping. They only allow electronic payments on some proprietary website and it auto adds 20% and they cross their fingers hopeing you didnt see. Then it asks if you would want to tip ON TOP of that. If you bring it up to staff they will actually announce that you arent tipping. Like fuck you guys

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[–] EmperorHenry@discuss.tchncs.de 21 points 1 year ago (7 children)

That tip won't go to the person serving you anyway

[–] SailorMoss@sh.itjust.works 15 points 1 year ago

This is why I almost never tip on my card and almost always tip in cash.

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[–] workinkindofhard@lemmy.world 18 points 1 year ago

I only tip dine in (if there is actually a server) and delivery.

Fast casual with no server or takeout/pickup I am no longer tipping

[–] superkret@lemmy.ml 17 points 1 year ago

everyone else in the restaurant:

[–] Mr_Blott@lemmy.world 16 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

A few places tried this when I was in Greece over the summer.

Step one - NO CHANCE, STAVROS

Step two - Straight onto my favourite review sites and leave one-star reviews for spoiling my fuckin lunch, you cunts 😂

Fuck bringing that shite over here

[–] Mr_Buscemi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 1 year ago

My local vape shop has started asking for tips when you pay now. I'm definitely not tipping for a D8 cart that's already 20% more expensive than buying it online from the makers.

[–] shifted_drifter@lemmy.world 15 points 1 year ago

Me, reaching over from the POS side paying for the transaction I'm ringing up, leaving no tip for myself

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