I would actually be kind of proud of my kids if they threw a successful party with their friends when I was out of town. It seems like kids barely party anymore. As long as they clean up afterwards and don't break a bunch of stuff, I'd pretend not to notice.
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Have you considered letting them party and being a cool responsible adult that sticks around to make sure everyone is safe. I had some friends growing up with parents like this. Their theory was the kids are going to party anyway so if you give them a safe space its less likely to go poorly. Anyone who got a little too sick or emotional ended up with an experienced adult to help them recover.
Problem is it looks worse to a judge if the adults were present at the party. It’s liability.
Perhaps the more disturbing thing is they lack the drive to break the rules.
We hosted parties for our daughters when they were teens (15-16). They weren't big - maybe 8 to 10 friends. No alcohol, but lots of food off the grill. On occasion, we let them drink alcohol with us after they turned 18 at home with no friends, which is legal in our state.
I'm relatively young and yeah, I barely ever party. Never did it much as a teen, and I do it even less as an adult in my 20's. It's just not all that fun to me.
Oh no. Where I live we do party. Me and my friend groups meet up almost every week to party and almost always we randomly meet new people. It's lots of fun.
Oh yeah totally, I agree
My kids are just winding down a 'first week of school party' at our house. I'm not sure how many teens we peaked at... Around 12 14-17 yr olds. This is a semi constant around here, roughly 1-2x a month for most of the year. I'm sure at some point it'll happen without us here.
Maybe, just maybe, the issue is the parents not letting go and not accessibility to cameras.
Before cameras everyone had a window granny who reported everything happening in the neighborhood. And even then, parents knew what was happening. The goal was that kids would fear that the parents would discover something is amiss and clean after themselves.
Back when I was a teen, my folks would go away for a month and a half every summer and leave us kids behind (we were teenagers and didn't want to go) and obviously we would throw parties. One year I had cleaned the house really well and thought there was no way they would know. My dad came home and that's how I learned he keeps two cold beers in the fridge for when he gets home. And they were gone.
He wasn't mad we threw parties, he wasn't mad we were underage drinking, but he was mad his two cold getting-home beers had been drank and not replaced. And that's how I found out my parents are humans who knew we were having parties and they didn't care as long as we didn't die or mess with their shit.
That and with the parents working from home, how often are they out of the house long enough to throw a party or even raid the alcohol cabinet?
The point isn't that they don't have fun. Its that they clean up so good we don't have to clean shit when we get home.
That’s how it worked before the cameras.
lol, never thought of it that way
My parents knew I had had a house party because it was too clean, they said I wouldn't have cleaned if I wasnt trying to hide something. They were right tbh
My dad did have cameras all over the house while I was in high school. But there weren’t any in my room so we could hang out in there. There also weren’t any in the bathroom so we could stash the alcohol in there and just pour it into cups.
Both of these required a parent not that dedicated to actually stopping his kids from partying though. But a parent sufficiently dedicated was always going to be able to find out somehow.
Did you have to, like, sneak people in through a window or something? Surely there were cameras at the normal entrances.
The latter for sure. And to be fair, my experience wasn’t identical to what the post was asking. It wasn’t so much a house party as it was having ~10 friends over. And my dad was often home, just already asleep. I definitely wouldn’t have tried to have a legitimate house party with the cameras around.
Just unplug the router and no internet access. ;)
No idea why the internet goes out every time you guys are out of town. So weird!!
Lol yeah so weird.
Good luck in my house, server is in a locked room and only way they can kill my cameras is by unplugging for 6 hours so the ups is depleted. Checkmate kids.
What UPS do you have that lasts 6 hours? Legitimately asking.
That doesn't solve anything. Your neighbors have security cameras too. They can share then with your parents. Your parents can watch video from other cameras if the neighborhood is on the same brand/network.
This varies with location. Our nearest neighbors are just shy on a mile away. Their cameras aren't much good.
...but then no Internet access :(
No Internet access = no music... But even that's not true cause everyone got mobil data etc
:/
This assumes you have cell access. Not everywhere in the world does.
This assumes you're alive. Not everyone that's lived is still alive.
You sound like my bf lol. Internet goes out and he can't do anything, meanwhile I got my locally stored music/shows and single player games
The kids actually figured out how to log in and disable the cameras or mute notifications and then delete memory 🥴
Dog you're not even getting started on how hard it is to be social as a kid/teen nowadays. Parents are spending so much more time with and around their kids too, because it's necessary when kids can't walk anywhere and have no skate parks or malls to go to anyway.
Let the kids have fun, what's wrong with these parents?
A neighbor would just tell on you. I got busted by random neighborhood parents skipping school or sneaking out.
You think this isn't the main use case?
Parents but this shit and trick tend into thinking it's about security from the outside. Adults know that was just a fringe possibility, it's all about curbing house parties.
Now shut up before they see this.
Parents but this shit and trick tend into thinking
lolwut
Fuck autocorrect fucked me hard. I have no idea what I was trying to say.
yeah I think your phone had a stroke there lol
Pretty sure every word in that was wrong 😅