this post was submitted on 11 Aug 2023
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[–] gjoel@lemmy.ml 11 points 1 year ago

I lived in a dorm with private rooms, but social kitchen. When I stayed in my room I felt bad, since I could be in the kitchen socialising with other people.

When I moved out of the dorm to my own apartment I completely stopped agonising about having to spend time with people, and could just relax alone at home. It was a great relief.

[–] PatFussy@lemm.ee 9 points 1 year ago

There was a party?

[–] itsAsin@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

i have declined an invitation to attend a family reunion this weekend, a function i have previously attended for years.

i am already feeling the FOMO and boredom and disappointment of relatives. but on the other hand, i am honoring my commitment to my mental health.

.... going down both sides of this cycle, and I damned reunion hasn't even started yet.

[–] Bread@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago

It is kinda weird seeing someone with a similar method of thinking as me for this kind of scenario. My family wants me to go to the family parties, but I for the life of me have absolutely no desire to do so. They are good people and I have no qualms with them, but I have no desire to see them outside of an occasional small interaction.

Am I alone with that thought process? It feels like I am.

[–] DrPop@lemmy.one 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Dealing with the duality of wanting to spend time with the people I like and wanting to be alone is such a struggle. Everyone knows I have anxiety, I'm very open about so if I'm ready to leave I just do. For me if feels like there is so much noise in my head that I start feeling panicked.

[–] OnopordumAcanthium@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago

Are you into anime? If you do, i recommend to watch Mushishi.

[–] felykiosa@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 year ago

I feel attacked

[–] Sora@feddit.ch 4 points 1 year ago

For me, there is grief in having to explain to others why I don't want to go.