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It's not a ridiculous comparison because the person I'm replying to said earlier "wait until you hear the actual offensive words in the English language." Slurs are obviously included in that category.
Additionally, it is certainly rude to call someone "buddy" or "bud" when they've repeatedly asked you to stop, which this thread is full of people doing. And if you were to call me "buddy," you would be misgendering and infantilizing me and that would certainly be offensive. It's a word that you can only reasonably call a 5 year old boy and one would hope there aren't many folks like that on here.
Learn to read the room a little, huh?
none of how rude something you've said is or whether someone perceives something you've said as gendered is for you to decide. that's all something that depends on the other person and their experiences in the world. being polite necessarily means that you have to take into account what other people are likely to think of what you've said. I don't know how to explain this any more clearly. What are you not understanding here?