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none of how rude something you've said is or whether someone perceives something you've said as gendered is for you to decide. that's all something that depends on the other person and their experiences in the world. being polite necessarily means that you have to take into account what other people are likely to think of what you've said. I don't know how to explain this any more clearly. What are you not understanding here?