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Fitting in. For a long time I tried to be the sort of person people liked. Unfortunately, I couldn't really pass as normal, and ended up more akin to a cross between Sheldon, and the main character in the Lego movie.
I finally realised I didn't actually care about fitting in. Instead I focused on becoming the best version of me I could. Centering myself and accepting my weirdness helped a huge amount.
Ammusingly, I now "fit in" far better than I ever did. I've gathered a collection of friends who match my vibe. People either think I'm weird, and back off (I don't really care about those), or think I'm weird, and that that's awesome. It turns out, my fellow weirdos are far more fun.
Human beings don't seek to fit in with others because of a societal expectation necessarily. Biologically speaking, it is beneficial for us to be amongst a group. We rely on others to survive.