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Only thing that isn't bullshit is be nice and be confident.
Just be yourself also is good advice. Not that it will always be successful in advancing the relationship. But it will be less stressful for you and prevent you from wasting years of your life with someone who only likes you for your fake personality.
If you have a horrible personality work on that so just being yourself doesn't mean being an asshole. Even then though at least anyone getting into the relationship will know that ahead of time and not after the divorce.
Is it not? If a relationship forms out of you not being yourself then that's not healthy. Although you would have to be not-yourself constantly and at that point doesn't that not-yourself become yourself?
Is this a "be the change you want to see in the world" kinda thing?