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I dislike this one quite a bit. I'm a good planner, but we're all human, and can forget sometimes. This quote is just an excuse to feel better about not helping someone out, and not in a healthy I'm-setting-boundaries manner.
I think there’s a difference between being a shitty person and being unwilling to help and being repeatedly used because you’ve helped out a couple of times before and now people end up leveraging your kindness. I personally subscribe to the line of thinking in the comment you replied to after giving the person I’m working with the benefit of the doubt that it’s a justified emergency a couple of times. I have a list of people at work now that I’ll still assist but I don’t jump at the opportunity as quickly because everything is an emergency to them and I think that’s just as shitty as not helping someone.
Just to clarify, I phrase it a bit differently: Not “piss-poor planning” but rather “a lack of planning” since it sounds less aggressive.
It's two bad ends of a spectrum, really.
I think that's why it says "emergency". Asking for help is okay, dumping your problems over to me so it's my "emergency" is not.
You can ask for help and give me some of your work, but not your responsibilities.
I disagree. The quote has an "I fucked up, what are you going to do about it?" vibe.
To be fair, my workplace is full of people that socialize 75% of the workday and constantly reply with “I’ll get around to it as soon as I can.”
…and then don’t.
And then I have to scramble to do their job when the task suddenly becomes more short-fused.
Thank gods I retire in a year.
I could be the bigger person and remind them about it, but it’s not my job to babysit peers and/or supervisors.