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What explains the disparity of outcome in people who join the military? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 week ago by Subject6051@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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American culture seems to be rife with men who went to the Marines and after being discharged of duty went on to either lead successful lives or who's life took a turn for the worse and ended up on the street.

Of c, the two groups are not equal in numbers and the third much larger group lies in between these two groups. Now, I still am interested in the disparity between the extremes. Why do some people who join the Marines go on to create an over represent the Marines amount the successful, while others end up on the street? They are all given a clean slate somewhat and are exposed to the exact same environment, what do the successful learn which the unsuccessful don't?

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[–] Subject6051@lemmy.ml 0 points 1 week ago (1 children)

That's true.

I have a question I can pose to anyone, but I am posing to you, do you think Lemmy focuses way too much on the things which we can't control and disregards what we can? I.e., when I asked that question I wanted actionable steps on which I can base my life around, something to help me be better, instead every answer I have gotten seems to focus on things we can't control.

I was thinking the answer would revolve around Attitude, Discipline and Mindset, and tho the answers are as revealing as these, I am not getting anything I can act on. Is Lemmy fixating on the negative 🤔

[–] OhNoMoreLemmy@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 week ago

There are things you can manage, but they tend to be about controlling your environment.

JD Vance is the perfect example of someone that benefited from the military. Fit in (and let's be honest being a straight white male still helps). Find a job that involves sitting behind a desk. Get some experience pulling a 9-5 for a few years, and then go to university for free. Don't get injured. Don't get PTSD.

All of this attitude with a capital A is too late. You can't Attitude yourself out of a missing leg, and you can't Attitude yourself out of PTSD. You can learn to cope better but coping well with PTSD is still worse than not having it.

Either have a plan to avoid danger or you need to be lucky.