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What will always be cringe-inducing to you? (kbin.melroy.org)

submitted 2 weeks ago by Pyrin@kbin.melroy.org to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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White guys saying the N word and being gangsta. There is nothing ever cool about a white guy pretending to be ghetto. Yes I'll include Eminem and I don't care if he's been given the pass.

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[–] Modern_medicine_isnt@lemmy.world 4 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Referring to someone as queer. When I grew up that was a major insult. You just didn't use that word, like the n word. You used others like homosexual and such. But now it is mainstream and ok to use in the right way. But it still feels offensive in my head.

[–] Hugin@lemmy.world 12 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

There was a deliberate movement to reclaim that word. Similar to black people using the N word. It also rhymes with here. "We're here. We're queer. Get used to it" was a big rallying cry in the 90s.

[–] Modern_medicine_isnt@lemmy.world 1 points 2 weeks ago

It does rhyme well.

[–] JackbyDev@programming.dev 1 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

As someone who is queer and knows queer people who use the word queer to identify themselves, many people use it as a form of shorthand to mean some variety of LGBTQ without going into more detail.

[–] Modern_medicine_isnt@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Yeah, I know all about it. I live near portland, we are generally very inclusive. My kid was explaining just some of the many categories to me the other day. It's a lot for an old brain to adjust to. And I am terrible at remembering peoples names. I may never be able to keep the categories connected to the people. Lol.

[–] JackbyDev@programming.dev 2 points 2 weeks ago

An easy shorthand is to treat it like the word female. "A queer" and "queers" is offensive, "queer people" is not.