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Who are you to decide what they're allowed to buy? You'd rather have someone go hungry on the off chance they might buy something you don't agree with?
It's ultimately an assessment done in a case by case basis. Another example: will you give money to a relative who will use it for gambling? Helping someone turn around their life and enabling their habits are different things.
If my relative wants to gamble with the 2 Currency that I've given them, okay then.
Buying them some food I think is the compromise here.
If you're already standing in front of a food cart, I suppose.
Who am I to decide what my money is spent on?
Giving another person money usually implies the transfer of ownership of that money to that other person, unless otherwise specified.
I think people have the right to do that conditionally
Sure. And depending on the circumstances the conditions might not make you look like a very nice person. Which you are of course free to ignore.
And? That's not the point.
The point is to help this person temporarily alleviate a problem they have, whatever that problem may be. If you don't want to do this, fine, but if you're only willing to give money if they use that money in ways that you deem wholesome, that's patronising.
The problem is that you are convinced they're going to buy drugs. You do not know that person, it is not your place to decide that.
No, I do not agree that simply offering help is patronising.