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"Do you have a preference for dinner or do you want me to handle it?" is like a magic question. It's so much less pressure than "what do you want for dinner" and potentially turns it into a one person decision. If they say no preference, I'll follow up with "I'm going to cook ____, does that sound alright?"
"No, we had that a few weeks ago."
Ive tried that.
Guess what we're having it again
Decoupling dinner can also be helpful. Sometimes my partner just wants to snack/graze instead of having a whole meal. We call that a "fend for yourself" dinner.
Yeah but they wont admit that they just want to snack!
Ive met one woman that knew what she wanted to eat and ever meal choice wasnt a struggle.
Goodness.
No no no! A man doesn't ask, he tells. Women generally like a man to take charge. You have to dovetail that decisiveness with what your woman likes.
Little trickier that, but not too hard if your paying close attention to pleasing her. And if you're not paying close attention to your woman, what the fuck are you doing anyway?! Because I promise, she's paying close attention to you.