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I personally don't think it matters much at all, except in channels that specifically identify that way. However, I am male, hetero, cis, so its possible I'm just clueless.

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[–] P4ulin_Kbana@lemmy.eco.br 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I couldn't understand your last sentence, could you please explain it? /lh

[–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 5 points 1 month ago (2 children)

There’s always a difference in how men and women are treated. It’s not always a horrible evil sexist thing, but people pick up on cues from tone and username and react to that.

Being online is nice, because the default assumption is that you’re a man, so unless you have a super femme username or are talking about something femme-coded like gardening or knitting, people tend not to treat you like a woman. “Treating you like a woman” basically means being dismissive of your experience or knowledge or tone policing (if I make a rude joke under a femme username, people downvote the hell out of it unless it’s about a very safe target- that’s how minor the difference is, to be clear). I’m also probably an egg, so my perception of not being treated like a woman as nice might be skewed.

[–] P4ulin_Kbana@lemmy.eco.br 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

By the way, if that's not too much to ask, what do you mean with "skewed"? I'm a slow person 😓

[–] idiomaddict@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Off, or not really the norm :)

Like, I said it’s nice that people think I’m a dude, but I don’t know if fully cis women think that’s nice 😅

[–] P4ulin_Kbana@lemmy.eco.br 2 points 1 month ago

Some time ago, I had the contrary thought of everyone being a man, so I used to think that just the way you described, everyone was a woman. I don't know what happened to that thought, though. By the way,

I'm a GIRL!Guy In Real Life