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Lemmy's have you ever been "profiled" or judged preemptively? What is your story ? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 month ago by Don_Dickle@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] Sanctus@lemmy.world 7 points 1 month ago (3 children)

I weigh like 115 pounds and I'm like 5'7. So I feel like those toxic masculinity dudes always want me to "prove my worth" a little extra cause of my size. Everywhere I go people call me "kid", but I'm a father of 3.

[–] JoYo@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I'm a big guy and small guys are always trying to prove themselves against me ever since I can remember. this toxic shit has got to go.

[–] Sanctus@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago

Its probably some sort of vicious cycle. Especially if the small guy is still dealing with past biases. Now I pretty much announce I'm nuthin' but a nerd so you won't get far talking to me about sports. This seems to kill a lot of toxic competition unless they're in my same department.

[–] davel@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I wanted nothing to do with those dudes, so I never ran into this problem. Masculinity standards are dumb and pointless; it’s a mug’s game.

[–] Sanctus@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago

I dont either, but the only place that even called me back for their IT position was a construction company and the name of the game is work or starve for us poors.

[–] Anticorp@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago

That’s really weird. If they’re tough guys then picking on you proves nothing, except that they’re cowards.