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Sorry for the potentially controversial question: is it normal for less attractive people to settle down with partners they don't find physically attractive? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 3 months ago by RebiJes@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[+] TheBigBrother@lemmy.world -12 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Women usually do that for social status, I mean, for women usually if there is money(specifically what money involves not exactly money as it) they don't care about beauty.

As a man at least for me you need to learn to appreciate women beyond their beauty, you need to experience going out with ugly women as part of knowing about women. The 98% of women function exactly the same way if you get used to go out with ugly women you will learn to go out with beautiful women.

Think of beauty like something what will not last forever, the main point in women isn't their beauty but other characteristics like support and followship

Beauty isn't everything what matters in a relationship, there are other things what each role do which compliment each other.

Edit: I'm getting downvoted and maybe to oblivion because evidently there are people who know I'm saying the truth but they don't like someone to do that.

[–] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 5 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Some women do it for social status, absolutely - some men do too. Others do it for money, or fame, or because they have a nice house...

That is certainly not the norm and your suggestion that it is the norm and it is specifically for women is why you're being downvoted (at least, IMO).

I actually agree with a portion of the rest of your comment that beauty isn't that important... physical attraction is one facet of attraction and I'd argue it isn't even a particularly major one.

[–] TheBigBrother@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago

I think you're right, it may sound a bit strange from that point of view, I forgot to mention that 98% of men also function the same, although I must clarify that I am referring to a generality and not to a totality, meaning that there are exceptions.