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I got asked out by a girl in high school I barely knew after feeling unlovable for most of my teens. I became fast friends with her female friends and it kinda helped me realize that women are just people.
Later I broke up with her but stayed friends with everyone. Eventually I started dating one of her other friends, and we're still together 6 years later. Taught me that being friends with someone should probably come before a relationship, and the best way to get girl friends is to just hang around them and do normal friend stuff.
Later I found out that the only reason I got asked out in the first place was because of a coin flip. If I lost that 50/50 I might still be an incel weirdo. Weird to think about.
She wouldn't have done it on the outcome of a coinflip if she wasn't at least partly interested.
She had a crush on two guys, I was one of them lol. The coin flip was to determine who to ask out. You're right though!
Ah, right. In a way that's even better - you were stacking up comparably against competition.