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How to deal with being bald? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 3 months ago by Quintus@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Until yesterday I used to have long hair. Due to unusually high tempetures I started having problems with the skin on my head. So, to avoid problems. I shaved it clean and it will remain that way until the skin in treated.

Now that I'm bald, I now know what's it's like. It sucks. My old hair suited me perfectly. It was messy just the right amount, perfect length, made me look different than the rest and handsome as hell. Every girl would look at me where ever I went to. Compliments floating over the air, jealous looks from other men etc. etc. It made me feel powerful.

But most importantly, it suited my personality and clothing. It was perfect! But now it's gone. I hate bald me. I will never look back at this bald version of myself.

It feels weird. I don't feel that bad but still it's disheartening.

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[–] AFKBRBChocolate@lemmy.world 25 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Older guy here, went bald in my 20s. Let me say this: while going bald or becoming bald sucks ass, being bald is fine. I had lots of thick hair, and when it started going away and I didn't look like me in the mirror anymore. I figured women would find me less attractive.

What I learned is that it takes a while for your self image to catch up to your reflection in the mirror. One of the shitty things for most people about going bald is that it happens over a long time, and when you're used to one level of baldness, it gets worse. But eventually it levels out.

There are women who aren't attracted to bald guys (and that's fine, attraction is subjective), but it turns out there are women who are especially attracted to bald guys, and that the vast majority of women don't care. Doing things like having a comb-over or wearing a toupee are often a turnoff, but I think it's as much because of the associated lack of confidence than the look itself.

I can sincerely say that I wouldn't want my hair back today. The look suits me and it's easier to deal with.

[–] floofloof@lemmy.ca 10 points 3 months ago (2 children)

The only bit that really sucks about being bald is if you don't wear a hat you get skin cancer.

[–] AFKBRBChocolate@lemmy.world 5 points 3 months ago

Yeah, true, there's an increased risk, and I'm not as good about it as I should be.

[–] CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org 5 points 3 months ago

Or if you do it in the cold, you get the mother of all brain freezes after a while.

On the other hand, direct scalp access can come in handy for various medical things, and on a hot day I love splashing cold water on it.

[–] CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org 5 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

That's exactly it. There was a grieving process for a few months as I came to terms with it, but now I don't think I'd go back if given the chance. I'm a bald guy, I look good bald and can make bald jokes whenever the ice needs breaking.