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Any tips on dealing with people that don't like you? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by lidd1ejimmy@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] InputZero@lemmy.ml 4 points 3 months ago

That would be my plan B. Plan A would be turn up my politeness and niceness knobs up for a little while. Maybe they're going through a rough time and it's temporary. After a sufficient amount of time to ensure it's not an anomaly, then go for the direct conversation. It usually pays off to give the other person the benefit of the doubt for a little bit, but not forever. It stopped me from being so reactive.