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I have no experience with this, but frankly, in a social situation like this, or in fact, any other, honesty is a good bet. "Start as you mean you go on." You can do this quite nicely, and if they're still insensitive that they take it personally and get offended, maybe that's a good red flag?
Say, "it's been great talking to you; I have things I need to do now, but I really look forward to talking to you tomorrow!" You can tailor it to how enthusiastic you are, where you are in the relationship, more or less flirty, more or less suggestive. The main thing is to simply be honest - you need to focus on other things, get some sleep, clean the dishes, eat, walk and feed the dog... you have life that needs taking care of away from your phone. And if you really are eager to continue talking tomorrow, saying that can really boost someone's confidence.
It can be a fast wind down. Especially if you're at a place in the relationship where you can make a date. "I'll be done with work and able to focus on you after 5 - TTYT?" Or if you're unsure about how far you want to take it, leave it open; tell them to text you when they find time.
Honesty is almost always the right answer.