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look you guys gotta understand that women's orgasm is a bit different. We can have amazing sex and not orgasm and it's ok. A woman can orgasm without even touching herself, that's how "in the head" we are. Its good either way. If you really want to make her cum try oral.
I've had a penis since birth and I can still have amazing sex without orgasming. For me it's more a matter of habit. When I started having sex, I wanted to orgasm every time. As I got more experienced, I started enjoying all the other stuff in sex more, and I regularly have sex with my partner without orgasming - most of my orgasms now come from masturbation.
Then why fake it?!?!? Just tell him you're done.
Because men sometimes take it personally when they "can't make you cum." Occasionally they get mad and blame you. It's safer to just hide it and figure it out later if necessary.
That sounds like both people are wrong. If one person defaults to anger and the other defaults to lying that sounds like a really unhealthy relationship.
You're not wrong, but actual relationship dynamics aren't always so clear cut. I was merely commenting as to why and unwilling to make a judgement about the situation. You don't always know what someone else is going through.