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[–] abfarid@startrek.website 3 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Wait, what's wrong with saying "that's gay"?

[–] ChihuahuaOfDoom@lemmy.world 17 points 5 months ago (2 children)

By using "that's gay" as a negative, there is an association that gay=bad regardless of context. I don't feel that way but I understand other people's perception of the phrase.

[–] abfarid@startrek.website 6 points 5 months ago

So it's not really about saying it, it's about stopping thinking that it's somehow negative.

But of course I was being 80% ironic with my original comment. I was simply implying there's nothing inherently wrong with saying it.

[–] dohpaz42@lemmy.world 1 points 5 months ago

I think also the context genuinely matters. As a straight male, I personally would use β€œthat’s gay” to point out something that is not mainstream normal, yet cool or cute; possibly even kitschy.

[–] blakeus12@hexbear.net 5 points 5 months ago (1 children)

saying it in a derogatory way or as an insult

[–] abfarid@startrek.website 0 points 5 months ago (2 children)

But how can it be used in a derogatory way? Just because the user thinks it's derogatory doesn't make it insulting.
LMK if I'm being too logical here.

[–] scoobford@lemmy.zip 4 points 5 months ago (1 children)

It used to be a standard thing that young people said to express disapproval.

"Ms Johnson said I can't make up the homework I missed because I forgot my bag yesterday."

"Sorry bro, that's gay."

[–] abfarid@startrek.website 2 points 5 months ago

I haven't encountered that IRL, but when I see that on the internet, I just assume it's being used ironically.

[–] blakeus12@hexbear.net 3 points 5 months ago

its the intent yeah. people using it in a derogatory way means they think gay = bad